Aug 2, 2011
Have you ever wondered how others see you?
Have you ever stepped back from your life and looked at it as though you were an objective bystander?
Have you ever felt stuck and asked a loved one to offer guidance and perspective?
A few months ago, Dan and I were on a call with a wonderful life coach, and she asked us how we defined success. At the time, we were in the mindset of “when this happens – we’ll feel truly successful.” We quickly listed off many things that needed to happen in our lives for us to feel like we were successful. Our list went something like this:
We will feel successful when we…
are the bestselling authors of inspirational books.
have inspired many people through our writing and how we live our lives.
make a certain amount of money.
move into our dream home.
find a way to balance it all and still have time for ourselves and each other.
And the list went on and on.
When we had finished listing things off, she said something that truly opened my eyes. She said she already saw us as successful.
She listed the following examples:
We had started a business that was still supporting us seven years later.
We had fallen in love and built our lives around being together.
We created products that inspired people to go within and live their best lives.
We were featured on Etsy as an example of someone who was able to work for themselves and make a living at it.
Our journals were bestsellers on the top spirituality-based website.
And while we felt that we still had a lot of work and growing and accomplishing and inspiring and creating and living to do – in her eyes we were already there.
We were successful.
This truly changed the way I looked at my life.
Instead of constantly striving for the next level, I began to look at what I had already accomplished and sit with it for awhile. Be still with it. Pat myself on the back. And acknowledge my success.
Sometimes we need another’s perspective to see how far we have come.
Try seeing your life through someone else’s eyes.
Your loved ones and friends don’t have your inner critic. They don’t have your checklist and goals in their minds. All they see is where you have been More
Aug 1, 2011
Happy August to everyone! The past couple of months have been super busy for me. I’ve been feeling extra frazzled, so I’m really looking forward to a fresh month and this new moon period where I get to create new beginnings and the life that I choose. I really love that each thought we have and each choice we make has led us to right where we are in this exact moment. I love it because it empowers us to take action and make positive choices if we aren’t happy with everything we see.
Look around you – take a look at the life you have created. Do you like what you see? Do you like who you have become? Do you like where you live? who you spend time with? how you react to stress? how you react to joy?
Spend a few moments really breathing your life in.
Close your eyes and feel what it’s like to live this life.
And take responsibility for your part in creating it. You created all of the wonderful parts in your life, and you also created each of the parts More
Jul 29, 2011
Do you ever feel that life is getting just a bit too serious?
Sometimes I find that I’m so consumed with work and have complete tunnel vision toward finishing my projects and meeting my deadlines and managing everything in a healthy and productive way that I forget to have fun.
I love what I do. I absolutely do. I love inspiring.
I love writing. I love connecting.
And I love remembering why I do what I do.
Why I have these deadlines.
How blessed I am to have a full plate filled with so many possibilities.
I love remembering that a full life is a lived life.
I love remembering to:
Smile.
Laugh.
Be silly.
Make jokes.
Skip.
Play.
Giggle.
Giving myself permission to take some time off to reconnect with these parts of myself is such a wonderful gift.
I invite you to do the same.
Your projects will still be there when you return.
And think of how More
Jul 28, 2011
I wouldn’t consider myself a team player. I have always been the type of person who would rather just do something myself than have someone else assist me. I thought that bringing in another person with their own set of expectations about how things should be done complicated things, and I found that it was just easier to work alone.
So I created an entire life based on the premise that I didn’t need anyone’s guidance.
I believed that I was fine (even better off) without anyone’s help.
I created a business. I became my own boss. I got to decide what to do and when to do it. I got to call the shots.
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Jul 26, 2011
Have you ever gotten out of the driver’s seat and allowed your higher self to take over?
Have you ever gotten out of your own way and surrendered to your own higher power?
Have you ever let go of your lower self – your human self – your ego – your conscious mind and allowed your higher self – your soul – your divine spirit to take the reins?
If so – how did it feel?
What was different?
When I sit down to write each day, I never know what is going to come out.
As much as I can control it, I resist planning. It overwhelms me, and I begin to feel boxed in. I feel that if I plan, my higher self and divine spirit won’t be free to show up and guide me along my path.And because of this natural resistance to planning, I am able to write without any preconceived ideas about what “should” be written, or what “must” be written. It is what it is. And I have faith that my higher self and the universe will come together and type what most needs to be written at that particular moment. What my soul feels that you (and me) need to hear the most.
So before I begin writing, I take a few deep breaths, light a candle, put on some soothing music, and wait. Sometimes the words start flowing immediately, and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes I start writing – thinking that it is my higher self driving only to find out that my ego jumped in and took over. So I start again. I know that my higher self is back in control when I am filled with love and joy and faith and a knowing that only my pure soul could show me.
It’s so important to give your higher self a voice.
It’s absolutely crucial that we clear space in our lives for this voice – that we make time to listen to what it is telling us.And you don’t have to be writing to have your pure soul speak to you – through you. You could be creating anything or creating nothing when it happens. You could be painting and notice a moment where the brush seemed to be moving on its own – where you felt that pure love. You could be alone with your thoughts when you notice a new voice – a wise, loving voice that is guiding you toward your path.
When you hear this voice (or feel it, as we sometimes do), you will immediately take notice. It can speak quietly though, which is why it’s so important to be still and slow down. You definitely don’t want to miss out on its wisdom. When you do take notice, you’ll find yourself sitting up straighter and breathing more fully. Your higher self has all of the answers. And it’s such a gift that we all have access to this part of ourselves. We only need to learn how to listen More
