We’re All Just Doing the Best We Can

I was watching Oprah last night, and she had Nadya Suleman as a guest. She had octuplets a couple of years ago and, as you might imagine, was feeling extremely overwhelmed and worried about how she was going to continue to care for her family. In this show, Oprah talked about how our society is addicted to judging others. Nadya has been put through the wringer in the press and judged very harshly by the public. And while her situation is extreme – we can all relate to her in some way. We have all had days when we just felt like we couldn’t do it anymore. We have all had moments where we were overwhelmed and stressed and burned out. If we take a moment to see how similar we are to someone we judge or dislike,  it will help us empathize more with them and their situation. It will help diffuse some of our own anger and create a space where love can replace it.  And doing this doesn’t mean that you agree with that person’s actions – you are simply acknowledging the humanness in their situation. You are acknowledging that we are all doing the best we can based on the knowledge and tools that we have available to us at that moment. I met some people yesterday who were very kind and supportive toward me. And yet they made some comments that weren’t kind and supportive toward someone else. After our conversation, I stepped back and thought about why they would make such a comment. And I realized it was because they were working with the knowledge and the tools that they currently had. They certainly weren’t bad people – they had good hearts and were simply doing the best they could. And while this doesn’t condone their comments, this did help diffuse my own anger and help me realize that we are all on our own path learning and growing at our own pace. We are all human – we all make plenty of mistakes along the way. Judging others only hurts ourselves.  Being able to empathize and put yourself in another person’s shoes will  open your heart and soul.  It will help you grow and be able to love even more fully. Think about someone you have recently judged.

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Unplugging Your Circuits

I woke up this morning thinking about the many unfinished projects I needed to do, emails I wanted to send, and the seemingly endless pile of papers that needed to be filed.  Not always the best way to wake up. I immediately felt tired and overwhelmed.  But then I remembered a wonderful cd that I listened to several years ago that talked about how we store energy in our bodies. It was called Energy Anatomy by Caroline Myss.  While it was an amazingly insightful series that I enjoyed listening to, the part that still sticks with me today and that I still use in my daily life is thinking about our bodies as circuit boards and everything we have to do and all of the thoughts we have are plugs. We only have a certain amount of circuits – and just imagine how many circuits you have plugged in when you are feeling completely overwhelmed and stressed out.  When I start to feel this way, I first take a look at where my circuits are plugged in.  I take a moment to write down every plugged-in circuit I can think of – everything that is draining my energy. Do I have emails to send that are weighing on me?  How about papers that are piling up?  Projects needing to be finished? A house that needs to be cleaned? Expense sheets to enter in? Orders to make? Friends to call and connect with? Old thoughts and thoughts patterns creeping back in? Hurts from the past still affecting me in the present? The list can go on and on – we are all so busy and we all have so many circuits plugged in to so many things. First simply become aware of these circuits.
Next visualize unplugging them.  See your body increasing with energy and vitality with each circuit unplugged. 
Sundays are perfect days to clearing your circuits – are at least starting to. 
You can start by clearing a chunk of time to sit down and batch as many circuits as you can into time chunks.  Send all of the emails in one chunk. Clean the house in one chunk. File the papers in one chunk.

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Take the Compliment, Darn It!

=&0=& =&1=&  Your mind starts whirling with questions:  Did you deserve such a nice compliment?  Would you seem too full of yourself if you agreed?  Should you simply look away and say a quick thank you and then change the subject? Now imagine how you feel when you give someone a compliment. They did something very well, and you want to let them know that you recognized it. So you tell them, and they immediately deflect it or dismiss it or ignore it. How does this make you feel? I bet it hits you right in your gut and makes you sad. It probably feels like you gave them a gift that they immediately sent back. And you’ll think twice before you compliment them again.  And this is how your loved ones feel when they compliment you.  =&2=& =&3=& =&4=& =&5=& =&6=& =&7=& This is a hard lesson and might not come easily to some of us – me included.  After receiving some recent press for our business, we’ve had the completely foreign experience of being recognized several times in our daily lives. It’s something that I hadn’t prepared for and takes some getting used to. Seeing yourself through the eyes of others is a great lesson – being told that we have inspired them is wonderful to hear, especially if we can learn to own it instead of deflect it. This is what it’s all about for us. We love helping people, and we are thrilled that our books are doing just that. So I’ll continue to work on being able to fully receive the love that you all are giving us. And the next time someone asks me to sign their book, I promise I won’t get all flustered. I will simply thank them and sign it. And hopefully you can do the same in your own life. The next time someone gives you a compliment, simply accept it, smile, and say “thank you.”

The Power of Labels

Have you ever had a moment where you wanted to change in some way, but you didn’t because it seemed too crazy, too out of the box, too “not you”? The labels we give ourselves are really powerful.  They can define us – and this can be empowering or stifling depending on where the label came from (our higher self or our comfort zone). If your higher self created the label, then you know it’s something great that you either currently embody or you can strive for. If you create labels for yourself from a point of low self esteem, comfort, or because you think you should – then they can hinder your growth and box you in to a life of comfort and stagnation. I recently took a look at what labels I give myself – both professionally and personally. I have been designing, writing, and making journals for over six years. Our business completely supports us, and I am comfortable calling myself an entrepreneur, a designer, and a creative spirit. But for some reason I had some blocks with calling myself a writer and an artist. For me, these words were powerful and I had to step back and think if I could truly embody these labels. It’s so funny to realize this – the power of words is so strong! I AM a writer and I AM an artist. I can choose to create these labels for myself and fully embrace them. Look at your own life. 
What labels do you use to define yourself?  What labels do others use to define you?

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The Power of Intention

We recently converted our journals into ebooks and began selling them on Amazon.  It’s such a thrill when we see that they have been purchased – knowing that we are spreading gratitude electronically is a wonderful feeling! I was thinking about this last night before I went to sleep and wondered if there were other websites where we could sell our ebooks as well. I told myself that I would start looking into it in the morning.  Today when I woke up, I checked my email and noticed a new Twitter follower. I clicked on their profile and guess what? They own a healing ebooks site with a large selection and many subscribers!  Some would call this a coincidence.  =&0=& =&1=& Things like this happen to all of us all of the time.  We just have to be conscious and aware to notice it. =&2=&=&3=& There is something very empowering about realizing our ability to create the exact life that we want – to bring our dreams into reality. This can be scary at times because we have to take responsibility for our lives. If we believe that we create our own reality, then we realize that if something isn’t working the way we had hoped in our lives it’s because of us. Somehow we brought that situation into our life. And this isn’t always the easiest to hear and process. But it works for the positive parts of our lives, too! If something is working (you have a great job, a wonderful family and friends, high self esteem, etc.) it’s because you attracted it into your life!  =&4=& If you would like to start small to see if it really works, then do that.  Think about what you want in your life and what you need to create that life.  Set an intention to attract that into your life.  Be as specific as you can.  Believe it. Feel it. Be open. And then let it go. Surrender it to your higher self.

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