Perfectly Imperfect Timing

Jodi Chapman on beachLike most of us, I have many dreams that I want to bring to life. I spend countless hours visualizing them coming to fruition, fully immersing myself in them, and living right smack in the center of them. When I go to sleep at night, I dream about them. And when I wake up in the morning, they are the first thing on my mind.

After  many, many years of one dream after the other, I pretty much have the whole dreaming part down by now.

However, I also have a huge side of me who loves to be safe and comfortable and live in the known. While my dreaming side is carefree and whimsical, this side is more practical, cautious, and thorough. This side wants things to be all lined up in neat little rows before I leap. It wants a big sign to appear, letting me know that it’s the absolute perfect time to bring this dream to life.

So what usually happens is that I constantly teeter between each side. I dream, dream, and dream. And then I question, pull back, and stay where I’m comfortable. And then I dream, dream, and dream some more. And again I question, pull back, and stay where I’m comfortable.

This usually goes on for a very long time – until eventually I get so fed up with this back and forth struggle that I leap anyway and pray that I’ll land on my feet.

I’ve been experiencing this so much over the past year. My husband and I went to the beach last summer to celebrate our anniversary. We both feel the most alive and the most ourselves when we’re near the ocean. When I am there, I feel like I can exhale more deeply than in any other place. I breathe life in and feel completely invigorated. When we came home, we promised ourselves that we would find a way – sooner rather than later – to move there full time.

We began researching where we wanted to go and immediately found the perfect spot. I printed out beach pictures from our trip and created a vision board that would remind me of our intention each day and inspire us to make it our reality. We began to go through our things – separating them into what we wanted to bring and what we wanted to donate. We began searching for a home and trusted that the perfect one would appear when the time was right. We were on track and completely in alignment with our dream, which felt so good.

But then life took over. We got busy with work. We rescued a dog who needed a ton of extra care and eventually found her a forever home. I became really ill and needed to lie down for much of the time. Our dream no longer seemed feasible – at least not for now. Our heads told us that that it was probably best to set this dream aside. So, with deflated hearts, we stopped packing and put away the travel brochures – knowing that the beach would be there when we were ready. And we got back into our everyday routine again, which now had a heaviness and darkness to it. I told myself that it was for the best and that it would just be too much right now to move. There was too much work to do and too much “life” to do – it wasn’t the right time.

So we started looking at the calendar to see when the right time would be. And we went month after month after month after month and realized that if we waited until the perfect time, we would never ever move (or reach any of our dreams). We were always going to be busy. We will always have books coming out and work that needs to be done or holidays to participate in or birthdays to celebrate or this or that and that and this through the end of time.

Wow. What a wake-up call this was.

There is never a perfect time to leap into your dream. 

Which means that every single moment is as good as any to take the leap. 

Most likely, the stars will not align in perfect order and give you a clear sign that the vortex has opened up and give you an hour/day/month/year when you should make your dream come true.

What will probably happen is your soul will continue to whisper that it’s time and let you know that you’re ready. What will probably happen is that you’ll get to a point where staying in your comfort zone will become more uncomfortable than leaping into the unknown. What will probably happen is that you’ll feel on a very deep level that, while it doesn’t make any kind of rational sense, you know that the time is now to bring your dream to life. You’ll know it. You’ll feel it. It will become such a part of you that you can hardly think of anything else.

When you reach this point, you won’t care what the calendar says or what’s on your schedule or what your friends think about it or what your mind says about it. When you reach this point, you will have reached the point of no return – you will have gained so much momentum that’s leading you toward your dream that there really is no turning back. You’ll have the universe, your spirit guides, the angels, and your soul all on your side – cheering you on and lovingly pushing you forward. You’ll be able to feel it – and slowly, all doubt and questioning and caution will disappear.

This is where I am right now with this move. My soul says that the time is near. And while my head still isn’t completely on board, I’ve learned to trust my soul when it is this emphatic. It hasn’t steered me wrong yet.

So, while the details aren’t worked out and while I have no idea what the specifics are, I do know this: sooner rather than later, I will be moving to the beach, and I will bring this dream to life.

And that excites me beyond anything I can imagine.

I invite you to open up some space for your own dreams as well – to remember that the timing may never seem perfect to your mind, but the time to leap toward your dreams is always exactly right within your soul.



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A Note from My Soul

believeI’ve had a really tough week, and so I’ve asked my soul to write this post to all of us when we’re feeling disheartened and defeated. I know that we’ve all found ourselves here at one point or another, and so if you’re also feeling this way, it’s my hope that this will be as helpful for you as I’m hoping it will be for me.



I want to start by saying that no matter what has happened or hasn’t happened, you are loved. So loved. And, even though it may not appear as such, everything truly is happening for your highest good.

I know that you’re disappointed and that you wanted things to go in a different way than they did, and that’s perfectly understandable. I love how invested you are in your own happiness. I love that you care so much about feeling good and wanting to do things to create a life that will help with that.

Please remember that while you are only able to see what’s right in front of you, I am able to span out miles and miles and miles ahead. And because of this, I can see how each decision will impact the next. And because of this and also because of my love for you, I want to do everything I can to insure that the path you’re following is a healing one and a loving one that is always in the interest of your highest good.

That means that there will be times when you will feel like things just aren’t falling into place – that no matter what you do, you can’t seem to find the light. And when that happens, I ask that you go back to love and faith. I ask that you shift your focus towards something bigger than what’s right in front of you and place your energy on trusting in something bigger than you: me, the universe, and all that is and has ever been. Believe, really believe, and know, really know, that everything – absolutely everything – is happening for your benefit. Everything – absolutely everything – is happening to support you and is coming from a place of love.

I know that while things seem bleak now, as you move down your path, you’ll be able to see why things didn’t go according to how you wanted them to go right now. And you’ll be able to see why this had to happen in this way in order for what’s coming next to happen and what’s coming after that to happen (and so on and so on). You’ll see how it’s all going perfectly. It truly is.

But for now, please give yourself permission to grieve the path that you thought you would take that is no longer. Be okay with feeling sad about what will never be. Allow yourself to go to that desolate place that feels so hopeless. It’s so important that you keep your heart open and continue to feel everything – the feelings that feel good and also the feelings that don’t feel good. You are here to experience life – all of it. Not just the easy parts, but also the parts that help you expand and grow.

Remember when things didn’t go the way you had hoped in the past. Think of one of those moments right now. Think of how upset you felt and how deflated you felt. And now, remember how grateful you became (after you had the benefit of perspective) when you realized how lucky you were that things didn’t go your way. Think about what your life has become because of that experience and what it wouldn’t have become had you not gone through it. And take some time, right now, to really take in this appreciation for the loving universe that you are a part of that truly only wants to see you soar.

There are so many great experiences and moments just waiting for you – they are just out of view. But they are there. And having this not-so-great experience will make these good ones that much sweeter.

You are so strong. You are so loved. And you are exactly where you need to be.

Always remember that.







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Love, Trust, Live + A New Journal!

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I’ve been feeling extra close to my soul lately. I can hear its whispers louder than ever before, and I am listening.

I love mantras: easy-to-remember phrases that help ground us in our truth. As I sat down to create this morning, the words “Love. Trust. Live.” came through from my soul. Immediately, I felt at ease and filled with an inner knowing that this was coming from something deep within me – something that was connected with all that is. And the more I sat with it, the more it resonated. The more I took it into my heart, the more it felt like a part of myself that I had come home to.

Each of the words on their own are powerful. And when put together, they build on each other and have the ability to create pure magic. 

I’ve been focusing on Love for many years now. Meeting my husband 13.5 years ago helped me open my heart to a deep, soulful love that paved the way to loving expansion and heart-centered openness. This love began to flow past us and into the world – helping me see others through this lens as well. And now, I’m even taking steps to see myself through this loving lens – to set aside the critic and shower myself with unconditional love and support. So I’m feeling really good about this part of the mantra and feel it already as part of my daily experience.

And now I see that my soul is asking me to bring the other two words into my world as well: Trust and Live.

Like many of us, I haven’t always had an easy time trusting others. For years, I have been the kind of person who just assumed that I was the only one I could count on and so it was up to me to make things happen. Living in this walled-up world wasn’t a lot of fun though, and it’s been my heart’s desire to let the walls down and let others in. And so, slowly, over the years I’ve been consciously doing exactly that. I’ve been sharing my heart with others and allowing myself to be vulnerable. And, for the most part, it’s been really wonderful to feel the love pouring in. Not every experience has been positive, though, and I have been hurt along the way. But still, there’s a big part inside of me that knows that this is the way forward – trusting others, trusting myself, and trusting the universe. Surrendering. Letting go. Easing up. And so I’m taking my soul’s advice to heart and will allow myself to trust more and more.

The final piece of the mantra is Live, which if I’m being completely honest, is something that I am feeling the most detached from in this moment. To me, living equals joy – unbridled bliss. Happiness. Elation. Life-affirming moments that have you smiling from ear to ear. I have experienced this, and I do know how amazing it feels to live this way. But I want to set the intention to extend these moments and also find happiness in all of the moments – not just the ones where joy comes easily. I want to stop putting conditions on when I’ll start truly living or when I’ll be ready to experience joy and simply live. My soul knows this, and this was the loving nudge that I needed to bring this into my awareness and be able to fully embody it.

I’ll be taking these words into my heart more and more over the coming days. There is a lightness to them and a loving energy to them and a strength to them – all things that I am ready to say yes to and bring more of into my life.

A New Journal!

I was feeling so inspired by this mantra and the insight and emotions that it brought up within me that I decided to create art around it and put it on a journal cover. I repeated the words to show how it’s not something that we do once and then complete. This mantra is a way of being – something that we get to consciously continue forever. And I made them subtle because they came to me as whispers – not a “beat you over the head” demand but more a loving suggestion.

It’s my hope that this drawing and journal will also inspire you to go within and take this mantra into your own heart as well.

love trust live journal

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Whether you order the journal or not, it’s my heart’s desire that you take the spirit of the drawing into your soul and let it sit there for a long while. Love. Trust. Live. Love. Trust. Live. Love. Trust. Live. And repeat, and repeat, and repeat.

It truly is a recipe for a wonderful life. It’s what I’m focusing on, and I hope you’ll focus on it as well.



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I’ll Be Happy When…

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We’ve all said it. We’ve all thought it. We’ve all felt it. And we’ve all believed it. 

The “I’ll be happy when…” illusion/trap. 

“I’ll be happy when I meet my soulmate.”

“I’ll be happy when my finances all come together.”

“I’ll be happy when I quit my job and leap into my soul’s calling.”

“I’ll be happy when my body feels healthier.”

“I’ll be happy when I get to wherever it is that I want to get to. Then, everything will come together. Then, the stars will align. Then, life will be pure bliss, and I will be in absolute heaven. Until then, though, I guess I’ll just wait for happiness – postpone it since I know it’s just around the corner.” 

Does any of this sound familiar to you? It certainly does to me.

I’ve been using the “I’ll be happy when…” phrase (both consciously and also subconsciously) for most of my life. In fact, I found myself using it just the other day when I was talking to my sweetie, Dan.

My dream is to move to the beach and to live a completely peaceful life there. And I know that this move is somewhere in my future, and I know that the ocean and I will be best friends when the time is right. And I know that I’ll be happy there.

But what about now? This moment? My present reality?

Why am I putting off happiness simply because I’m not exactly where I want to be?

I’ve been focusing on all of my dreams that are in the future and all of my lack of dreams that are in the present. But that’s not really fair – because when I stop and think about it, I have so many potential happiness inducers all around me. I’ve been so busy putting parameters around my own happiness that I just about missed embracing my currently available happiness.

It’s true that right here in this moment, my life doesn’t feel like a particularly good incubator for growing happiness. I’m currently sick with a chest cold; we still are taking care of a dog that we found who takes a lot of time and energy; I don’t currently live at the beach; my book is taking longer to write than I originally thought; I’m in my eighth month on the couch from adrenal fatigue….and, just as I was writing this, my cat puked all over our bed. Blah, blah, blah…

Yes, all of this is true. And yes, I could make a great case for why this isn’t the perfect time to feel happy.

But that really would make me miserable, wouldn’t it? And I actually don’t want to feel miserable. I want to feel happy.

So instead, I’m going to do my best to eliminate the “I’ll be happy when…” phrase from my vocabulary completely. I’m going to do my best to fully embrace all of the good in my life rather than focus on what’s not quite how I want it to be or focusing on how I hope my future will be.

And it’s really not hard to do once I make the decision to shift my focus:

  • I am so happy that I have an amazing husband who loves me so beautifully.
  • I am so happy that I have three sweet cats who make me laugh everyday.
  • I am so happy that I have such a nurturing relationship with my mom.
  • I am so happy that I have dear friends who love me for me.
  • I am so happy that I get to spend all of this time on the couch – healing and resting and nurturing my soul.
  • I am so happy that I live in such a beautiful place where I look out my back door and see a beautiful field and green mountains.
  • I am so happy that I get to spend each day writing and creating – two things that feed my soul.
  • I am so happy that I get to connect with others from all over the world – that we really truly see each other at the soul level.
  • I am so happy that I am alive in this day and age – with all of the advances in technology that make all of this connection possible.
  • I am so happy that I get to choose what I will focus on and what I will embrace.
  • I am so happy that I am so happy. It feels good, and I love that I can do this any time I want to.
  • I am so happy that I don’t have to wait for happiness. That I don’t have to wait for everything to line up perfectly and exactly how I planned for it to in order to feel at peace. I am so happy that I can be happy right here in this exact moment simply by choosing to be.

This is what I wish for all of us – to remember that happiness is a moment-by-moment choice. I forget that sometimes, and I’m so happy that my soul always, always, always bring me right back.

If you also have a tendency to get stuck in the “I’ll be happy when…” mindset, I would love to invite you to join me in removing this from your vocabulary, too. Let’s focus on being happy NOW!




You’re Allowed to Change

teeny-changeI’ve been seeing something a lot lately in several of the online groups that I’m part of. There’s sort of this notion that if we start something, we have to see it through. That if something was once our dream, then it must always stay our dream. That if we take the leap to pursue our soul’s purpose – if we drop everything else in our life and move mountains to make this happen and to see it through – then we have to stick with it forever. Because it’s our purpose, right? It’s our dream. And it’s just what we’re meant to do.

And I agree with this, in the sense that it was exactly what we were meant to do. When we first heard that whisper and first took that leap, it was our dream. And when we made the plans to see it through, it was our purpose. And at first it felt amazing and heart-centered and perfectly aligned with who we were.

But sometimes (oftentimes) we grow out of our dream. And sometimes (oftentimes) our purpose expands and shifts and grows as we expand and shift and grow. And part of our job here on Earth is to give ourselves permission to say goodbye to one dream to make room for another – to thank it for helping us reach this next level of consciousness – to appreciate it for allowing us to gain insight and awareness. And then to bravely allow ourselves to walk away from it and walk toward the new whispers that we’re feeling called to – our new soul’s purpose – whatever it is that we currently, in this exact moment, feel aligned with.

It’s not always easy to walk away from something that we’ve been so passionate about and that we’ve put so many hours into and that we’ve potentially built from the ground up and poured our blood, sweat, tears, and happiness into. We know this dream. We’re comfortable with this dream. We may not currently be fulfilled or happy with it, but it’s ours. It’s a part of us – a piece of us – that we’re leaving behind. And that can feel scary to say goodbye to.

So it makes sense that even if we feel that the dream no longer fits us and even if we know deep in our heart that we’re no longer aligned with it, we stay. And we hope and pray that things will eventually feel good again. We hope and pray that eventually we’ll feel passionate about it again. We hope and pray that it will all make sense again.

Except it won’t. It can’t. Because we have grown, and we can’t go back. We can’t take back all of our expansion and growth simply because we want to feel comfortable again or not have to start over again. We just can’t. No matter how much we want to. But maybe, just maybe, if we step back and get some perspective around it – we will realize that we wouldn’t want to even if we could. We will realize that we are who we are right now is because this past dream and this past purpose has led us here. We have received all of the gifts that it had to offer. And so we’ll never completely leave the dream behind – it will forever be part of us. And we’ll be who we’ll be by saying yes to our current soul’s whispers and leaping into the next dream and purpose. And it goes on and on and on if we allow ourselves to embrace this change and growth throughout our entire life.

It’s up to each of us. Truly it is.

I’ve experienced this in the past when I knew it was time to say goodbye to my gift business. And I’m experiencing it now when I know that so much of my soul’s purpose is changing, and I’m feeling called to serve in different ways then before. And I have been dragging my feet because I am afraid. I have been kicking and screaming and coming up with every excuse to not have to move forward because I have been living my dream life for many years, and a huge part of me wishes that it was still my dream. But it’s not. I’ve grown. I’ve changed. And so it’s time for me to see this as a gift rather than a curse. It’s a good thing. I’ll be saying yes more and more to my current purpose – the one that feels right for me now. And I’ll be leaving behind any part of my past dream that no longer aligns with that and sending it off with love and gratitude for all of the gifts and growth that it has given to me.

It’s my hope that if you’re also feeling this tug toward change, that you give yourself permission to do so. That you allow yourself to move forward. That’s why we’re here. And there’s so much loving grace in that.



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