Permission to Step Away

jodi and big seashellI just returned from the beach.

After a busy morning that was filled with answering more emails than I even knew was possible and figuring out all sorts of administrative things for my business, I could feel my energy leaving my body very quickly. It was the kind of day where it seemed like I was putting out one mini fire after the next, and I needed a break.

Thankfully, I now have the perfect solution for times like these: head to the beach. 

So I bundled up, and within minutes was in the middle of the beautiful haven that you see in the photo.

Ahhhh….I could immediately breathe again. I wasn’t thinking about work or emails or figurative fires or anything that needed to be done or anyone who needed something from me or anything at all. I was simply THERE. Taking it in. Immersing myself in the ocean’s energy. And it felt wonderful. amazing. full. loving. perfect. 

I walked around, picked up shells (including the amazing one in the photo), watched the waves come in and out, enjoyed birds who were playing in the water. Each moment at the beach brought me closer to myself – to my soul.

I am not my work. My work is a part of me, but it is certainly not all of me.

Sometimes I forget that.

It’s become such a habit for me to hunker down and futilely attempt to get through the never-ending work pile – no matter how long it takes or no matter what cost the stress and pushing has on my own wellbeing. For so many years, I’ve had the mindset of just doing it and getting it done and finishing and checking it all off and writing back quickly and being as perfect as I could along the way.

Well, that is all a part of my past that I am choosing to not bring into my present and certainly not into my future. 

I get to choose. 

I forget that sometimes. 

I don’t have to push and push and push. 

I want to feel good. I want to honor my own needs. I want to be filled with vitality. I want my heart and soul to be full again. 

That’s what I get from the ocean. That’s how I feel at the ocean. And that’s why my soul asked me so emphatically to come to the ocean. It was time to welcome my entire self back home again – the part that had been missing for so many years. I’m just no longer okay with allowing this part of myself who just wants to be liked and be good and be perfect and be successful continue to run the show – continue to get all of the air time. I’m finding that all of these things are no longer nearly as important to me and are fading away more and more each day – being replaced by something much fuller and much more sustainable.

My own happiness matters.

I see that now. 

And so this means that I will take more breaks, and I will go to the beach. Even if (especially if) my work plate is overflowing and it doesn’t seem like a good idea. 

Because when I am there, I remember who I am. And that is the biggest gift that I could ever give to myself and also to anyone else. Me. All of me. Not the resentful, exhausted, depleted, overworked, overwhelmed part. But the loving, full, balanced, joyful, and energized part.

That’s who I want to offer to myself and to the world.

And it all starts with choosing to step away for however long it takes. It starts with setting boundaries and remembering how important it is to give myself time and space to recharge.

So that’s what I’m doing.

It most likely will mean that I won’t be responding to emails as promptly as I would like. It most likely will mean that I won’t be sending as many newsletters out as I had planned on. It most likely will mean that I won’t be interacting on social media as much as I have in the past.

But it will definitely mean that when I do respond and when I am there, I will be much more present, full, and happy. And isn’t that all we want for ourselves and for each other? To really enjoy our lives and to really be able to embrace them?

I think so.

I would love for each of us to make more space for what matters most: ourselves. I would love for each of us to give ourselves permission to step away in whatever way feels best for us for whatever amount of time helps us come home to ourselves again. It matters. We matter. So, so much.

Hugs,

jodi

 

Dreams Really Do Come True

dreams come true copyI’m writing this from my new home on the Oregon coast. It honestly feels surreal to write that – to really take it in.

Just two months ago, I shared here about my dream of wanting to move to the beach – of longing to live by the water and take in the ocean’s energy. For over a year, my soul had been whispering that this is what I needed to fully heal my body and to fully align with my soul. I knew it. I could feel it. But I was afraid to make such a big leap.

Well… I had no idea that declaring this intention to each of you would supercharge my dream and speed it up. I had absolutely no idea that just weeks after I wrote that post that I would be living my dream – spending each day in a beautiful home where the sound of the ocean’s waves lulled me to sleep. I had no idea that it would take just three minutes to go from my driveway to the ocean’s shore. I had no idea that all of this was about to happen – that this huge long-held dream of mine was about to come true.

But it did. It has. It’s real.

I’m still settling into that. I’m still coming to terms (in a good way) with that. I’m still wrapping my brain around that.

I had visualized this for so long that it almost seemed like it would permanently be in the future. I had thought about living here for so long that it seemed perpetually just out of reach – something that would happen “someday.”

Last November, I had one of the biggest health scares of my life when my adrenal glands went into full crisis mode. I was sicker than I have ever been and absolutely terrified. After recovering, something inside me shifted. I realized that I didn’t want to wait on my own happiness any longer. I wanted to allow myself to be fully happy and fully alive and fully healthy. I no longer wanted to allow pushing and pushing and pushing myself to be the norm. I didn’t want to look back one day and think that I was a really good worker and accomplished so many great things all at the expense of my own health and happiness.

I wanted to embrace life. To smile. To laugh. To feel free.

And while I knew that I could do that anywhere, I knew that it would be much easier to do so while at the beach – my soul’s sanctuary.

Getting clear about this intention and really knowing that I was ready was all the universe needed from me. It took over the details and everything fell into place in what felt like record time. Just weeks later, we were living at the beach. Just weeks later!

This is such powerful evidence for me to remember how quickly things can happen once we align ourselves with our dreams.

So here I am. A new house. A new life. New priorities. New boundaries. A new awe of this amazing universe. And a new love affair. While I’ve never lived near the ocean before, I have always felt a strong connection to it. I always feel the most alive and the most myself when I am near it. I am completely in love with it.

Dan and I went to the beach for the first time on Christmas Day to celebrate our wish/dream coming true, and I immediately burst into tears upon seeing it. I was home. Everything that has happened in my life has brought me right to this moment – has led me back home.

And that truly is a miracle.

Dreams really do come true.

They really do.

We just have to find a way to align ourselves with them. Oftentimes this means stepping out of the way and simply letting the universe take over and watching the miracles flow in.

That’s what I’ve done, and I am in absolute awe and will most likely stay in this space for a long, long while.

I am just so grateful to be here in this dream space and to share this moment with each of you.

It’s my wish that your dreams come to life this year as well. We are all so deserving of having all of our dreams fully realized. We really are.

j christmas seashell us at beach on new years

Hugs and love,

jodi

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Perfectly Imperfect Timing

Jodi Chapman on beachLike most of us, I have many dreams that I want to bring to life. I spend countless hours visualizing them coming to fruition, fully immersing myself in them, and living right smack in the center of them. When I go to sleep at night, I dream about them. And when I wake up in the morning, they are the first thing on my mind.

After  many, many years of one dream after the other, I pretty much have the whole dreaming part down by now.

However, I also have a huge side of me who loves to be safe and comfortable and live in the known. While my dreaming side is carefree and whimsical, this side is more practical, cautious, and thorough. This side wants things to be all lined up in neat little rows before I leap. It wants a big sign to appear, letting me know that it’s the absolute perfect time to bring this dream to life.

So what usually happens is that I constantly teeter between each side. I dream, dream, and dream. And then I question, pull back, and stay where I’m comfortable. And then I dream, dream, and dream some more. And again I question, pull back, and stay where I’m comfortable.

This usually goes on for a very long time – until eventually I get so fed up with this back and forth struggle that I leap anyway and pray that I’ll land on my feet.

I’ve been experiencing this so much over the past year. My husband and I went to the beach last summer to celebrate our anniversary. We both feel the most alive and the most ourselves when we’re near the ocean. When I am there, I feel like I can exhale more deeply than in any other place. I breathe life in and feel completely invigorated. When we came home, we promised ourselves that we would find a way – sooner rather than later – to move there full time.

We began researching where we wanted to go and immediately found the perfect spot. I printed out beach pictures from our trip and created a vision board that would remind me of our intention each day and inspire us to make it our reality. We began to go through our things – separating them into what we wanted to bring and what we wanted to donate. We began searching for a home and trusted that the perfect one would appear when the time was right. We were on track and completely in alignment with our dream, which felt so good.

But then life took over. We got busy with work. We rescued a dog who needed a ton of extra care and eventually found her a forever home. I became really ill and needed to lie down for much of the time. Our dream no longer seemed feasible – at least not for now. Our heads told us that that it was probably best to set this dream aside. So, with deflated hearts, we stopped packing and put away the travel brochures – knowing that the beach would be there when we were ready. And we got back into our everyday routine again, which now had a heaviness and darkness to it. I told myself that it was for the best and that it would just be too much right now to move. There was too much work to do and too much “life” to do – it wasn’t the right time.

So we started looking at the calendar to see when the right time would be. And we went month after month after month after month and realized that if we waited until the perfect time, we would never ever move (or reach any of our dreams). We were always going to be busy. We will always have books coming out and work that needs to be done or holidays to participate in or birthdays to celebrate or this or that and that and this through the end of time.

Wow. What a wake-up call this was.

There is never a perfect time to leap into your dream. 

Which means that every single moment is as good as any to take the leap. 

Most likely, the stars will not align in perfect order and give you a clear sign that the vortex has opened up and give you an hour/day/month/year when you should make your dream come true.

What will probably happen is your soul will continue to whisper that it’s time and let you know that you’re ready. What will probably happen is that you’ll get to a point where staying in your comfort zone will become more uncomfortable than leaping into the unknown. What will probably happen is that you’ll feel on a very deep level that, while it doesn’t make any kind of rational sense, you know that the time is now to bring your dream to life. You’ll know it. You’ll feel it. It will become such a part of you that you can hardly think of anything else.

When you reach this point, you won’t care what the calendar says or what’s on your schedule or what your friends think about it or what your mind says about it. When you reach this point, you will have reached the point of no return – you will have gained so much momentum that’s leading you toward your dream that there really is no turning back. You’ll have the universe, your spirit guides, the angels, and your soul all on your side – cheering you on and lovingly pushing you forward. You’ll be able to feel it – and slowly, all doubt and questioning and caution will disappear.

This is where I am right now with this move. My soul says that the time is near. And while my head still isn’t completely on board, I’ve learned to trust my soul when it is this emphatic. It hasn’t steered me wrong yet.

So, while the details aren’t worked out and while I have no idea what the specifics are, I do know this: sooner rather than later, I will be moving to the beach, and I will bring this dream to life.

And that excites me beyond anything I can imagine.

I invite you to open up some space for your own dreams as well – to remember that the timing may never seem perfect to your mind, but the time to leap toward your dreams is always exactly right within your soul.

Hugs,

jodi

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A Note from My Soul

believeI’ve had a really tough week, and so I’ve asked my soul to write this post to all of us when we’re feeling disheartened and defeated. I know that we’ve all found ourselves here at one point or another, and so if you’re also feeling this way, it’s my hope that this will be as helpful for you as I’m hoping it will be for me.

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I want to start by saying that no matter what has happened or hasn’t happened, you are loved. So loved. And, even though it may not appear as such, everything truly is happening for your highest good.

I know that you’re disappointed and that you wanted things to go in a different way than they did, and that’s perfectly understandable. I love how invested you are in your own happiness. I love that you care so much about feeling good and wanting to do things to create a life that will help with that.

Please remember that while you are only able to see what’s right in front of you, I am able to span out miles and miles and miles ahead. And because of this, I can see how each decision will impact the next. And because of this and also because of my love for you, I want to do everything I can to insure that the path you’re following is a healing one and a loving one that is always in the interest of your highest good.

That means that there will be times when you will feel like things just aren’t falling into place – that no matter what you do, you can’t seem to find the light. And when that happens, I ask that you go back to love and faith. I ask that you shift your focus towards something bigger than what’s right in front of you and place your energy on trusting in something bigger than you: me, the universe, and all that is and has ever been. Believe, really believe, and know, really know, that everything – absolutely everything – is happening for your benefit. Everything – absolutely everything – is happening to support you and is coming from a place of love.

I know that while things seem bleak now, as you move down your path, you’ll be able to see why things didn’t go according to how you wanted them to go right now. And you’ll be able to see why this had to happen in this way in order for what’s coming next to happen and what’s coming after that to happen (and so on and so on). You’ll see how it’s all going perfectly. It truly is.

But for now, please give yourself permission to grieve the path that you thought you would take that is no longer. Be okay with feeling sad about what will never be. Allow yourself to go to that desolate place that feels so hopeless. It’s so important that you keep your heart open and continue to feel everything – the feelings that feel good and also the feelings that don’t feel good. You are here to experience life – all of it. Not just the easy parts, but also the parts that help you expand and grow.

Remember when things didn’t go the way you had hoped in the past. Think of one of those moments right now. Think of how upset you felt and how deflated you felt. And now, remember how grateful you became (after you had the benefit of perspective) when you realized how lucky you were that things didn’t go your way. Think about what your life has become because of that experience and what it wouldn’t have become had you not gone through it. And take some time, right now, to really take in this appreciation for the loving universe that you are a part of that truly only wants to see you soar.

There are so many great experiences and moments just waiting for you – they are just out of view. But they are there. And having this not-so-great experience will make these good ones that much sweeter.

You are so strong. You are so loved. And you are exactly where you need to be.

Always remember that.

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Hugs,

jodi

 

 

 

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Love, Trust, Live + A New Journal!

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I’ve been feeling extra close to my soul lately. I can hear its whispers louder than ever before, and I am listening.

I love mantras: easy-to-remember phrases that help ground us in our truth. As I sat down to create this morning, the words “Love. Trust. Live.” came through from my soul. Immediately, I felt at ease and filled with an inner knowing that this was coming from something deep within me – something that was connected with all that is. And the more I sat with it, the more it resonated. The more I took it into my heart, the more it felt like a part of myself that I had come home to.

Each of the words on their own are powerful. And when put together, they build on each other and have the ability to create pure magic. 

I’ve been focusing on Love for many years now. Meeting my husband 13.5 years ago helped me open my heart to a deep, soulful love that paved the way to loving expansion and heart-centered openness. This love began to flow past us and into the world – helping me see others through this lens as well. And now, I’m even taking steps to see myself through this loving lens – to set aside the critic and shower myself with unconditional love and support. So I’m feeling really good about this part of the mantra and feel it already as part of my daily experience.

And now I see that my soul is asking me to bring the other two words into my world as well: Trust and Live.

Like many of us, I haven’t always had an easy time trusting others. For years, I have been the kind of person who just assumed that I was the only one I could count on and so it was up to me to make things happen. Living in this walled-up world wasn’t a lot of fun though, and it’s been my heart’s desire to let the walls down and let others in. And so, slowly, over the years I’ve been consciously doing exactly that. I’ve been sharing my heart with others and allowing myself to be vulnerable. And, for the most part, it’s been really wonderful to feel the love pouring in. Not every experience has been positive, though, and I have been hurt along the way. But still, there’s a big part inside of me that knows that this is the way forward – trusting others, trusting myself, and trusting the universe. Surrendering. Letting go. Easing up. And so I’m taking my soul’s advice to heart and will allow myself to trust more and more.

The final piece of the mantra is Live, which if I’m being completely honest, is something that I am feeling the most detached from in this moment. To me, living equals joy – unbridled bliss. Happiness. Elation. Life-affirming moments that have you smiling from ear to ear. I have experienced this, and I do know how amazing it feels to live this way. But I want to set the intention to extend these moments and also find happiness in all of the moments – not just the ones where joy comes easily. I want to stop putting conditions on when I’ll start truly living or when I’ll be ready to experience joy and simply live. My soul knows this, and this was the loving nudge that I needed to bring this into my awareness and be able to fully embody it.

I’ll be taking these words into my heart more and more over the coming days. There is a lightness to them and a loving energy to them and a strength to them – all things that I am ready to say yes to and bring more of into my life.

A New Journal!

I was feeling so inspired by this mantra and the insight and emotions that it brought up within me that I decided to create art around it and put it on a journal cover. I repeated the words to show how it’s not something that we do once and then complete. This mantra is a way of being – something that we get to consciously continue forever. And I made them subtle because they came to me as whispers – not a “beat you over the head” demand but more a loving suggestion.

It’s my hope that this drawing and journal will also inspire you to go within and take this mantra into your own heart as well.

love trust live journal

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This cute journal measures 4.25″x5.5″) and contains 50 inside pages (made with 100% recycled paper).

I’m offering an introductory special, too! You can order in quantities or 1, 3, or 5 – the more you buy, the more you save! 

Plus, I’ll choose one Soul Clarity Card for you and include that with your order! (A great message from your soul.)


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Whether you order the journal or not, it’s my heart’s desire that you take the spirit of the drawing into your soul and let it sit there for a long while. Love. Trust. Live. Love. Trust. Live. Love. Trust. Live. And repeat, and repeat, and repeat.

It truly is a recipe for a wonderful life. It’s what I’m focusing on, and I hope you’ll focus on it as well.

Hugs,

jodi

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