Self-Care Non-Negotiables

feel good copyLately, I’ve been on a self-care kick – meaning that, for the first time in my life, really, I’m embracing self care fully and completely.

I almost feel like I’ve gone for so long without it that I’m starving for it, thirsty for it, and completely insatiable for it.

For most of my life, my default setting was to push myself and go, go, go until I simply couldn’t go any longer. I would end up getting some horrible illness – one after the other – in order to help me find balance again and slow down. And yet, while I was healing from one illness to the next, I felt completely impatient and frustrated that it was keeping me from whatever I was meant to be doing – although, I honestly wasn’t even sure what that was most of the time because the majority of my actions came from outside of my soul’s wisdom. They were either things that I felt I should do or things that I felt someone else wanted me to do or things that one just did. I hadn’t realized (at least not fully) that I had a choice in the matter – that I could ask myself what felt right and allow myself to do whatever that was.

For me, conscious self care was a foreign concept – a frivolous notion – that may have worked for others, but wouldn’t work for me. I didn’t need to stop and take care of myself, I thought. I was strong and could push through and could get more done if I kept going. Blah. Blah. Blah.

Well, I now know without a doubt that this just isn’t true. I can’t keep going without taking loving care of myself. I can’t live a life that doesn’t include self care. This last illness of adrenal fatigue was serious enough that I wasn’t always sure I was going to pull through. My body and soul finally got my attention, and for the past two years, out of necessity, I began pulling myself away from my “duties” one by one. I began to simplify my life and get in touch with what feels good for me – with what makes me happy. I had a lot of time to evaluate what was working and what wasn’t.

What I discovered (which has been a complete surprise) is that I actually like taking care of myself. And the more I do it, the better I feel. And the better I feel, the more I want to take even more care of myself so that I can feel even better. (For me, “better” means more at peace and healthy and happy and content.)

In many ways, I feel like a completely different person now because of all of this love and nurturing and permission that I’ve been giving to myself. I now see self care not only as something that must be on my priority list, but at the top. Life just works better this way. I am so much happier this way.

During this time of self-care discovery, I have honed in on what my own self-care non-negotiables are: those things that I am absolutely in no way willing to give up ever again. I’m sharing them here with you now for a couple of reasons: first to honor where I am right now and remain as authentic as I can and also to invite you to create your own list, too.

So, without further ado, here are my self-care non-negotiables: 

  • Sleep in as long as my body wants to.
  • Ease into the day and not have anything time-sensitive to do before 1 pm.
  • Drink hot lemon water with Himalayan salt each morning.
  • Spend time with Dan in the sunroom each morning – chatting about our dreams, checking in with how we’re feeling, talking about the day ahead, and just enjoying being together.
  • Eat a salad for lunch and drink a green smoothie in the afternoon. And continue putting healthy food into my body each day.
  • Go to the beach at least 3 times a week and walk along the shore (bare feet, if possible)
  • Spend time in our hammock – simply relaxing.
  • Minimize time on the phone to the absolute minimum.
  • Only wear clothes and shoes that are comfortable and that I feel good in.
  • Eat lunch outside (weather permitting).
  • Continue tightening my friendship circle so that those around me (in person and energetically) are those that bring me joy and energy.
  • No online time or work after dinner.
  • No online time during the weekends.
  • Take 1-2 days off completely each week.
  • Continue my sabbatical from speaking professionally.
  • Continue simplifying my life.
  • Play with and snuggle with my cats each day.
  • Take at least 2 hours each day for myself – doing whatever feels right.
  • Take a nap each day with Dan and the kitties.
  • Focus on what brings me joy and allow myself to move towards whatever that is.
  • Take vitamins that nourish my body.
  • I no longer push myself. When I feel tired, I take a break. And if I find that whatever I’m doing is especially draining for me, I take some time to see how I can minimize and/or eliminate it from my life.
  • Write down the top 3 things that happened during the day and put them in our gratitude jar.
  • Enjoy game time with Dan, which is a routine that we’ve done at the end of each day for well over 10 years.
  • Take an epsom salt/lavender essential oil bath each night.
  • Read before going to sleep.
  • Give myself permission to be happy, content, and at peace.

 

If it resonates with you, I invite you to come up with your own list of self-care non-negotiables as well. I have found it so healing to see what I truly need to feel full and content. And once we know what we need, we can make giving ourselves these things a priority. It’s super important. It feels good. And what can be better than that? Truly.

Please feel free to share your lists in the comments below.

Hugs,

jodi

P.S. – You can pay whatever you want for our Soulful Love Ecourse this month! Whether you’re looking for your soulmate or are already in a relationship and want to grow even closer, our Soulful Love Ecourse can help! Over 2,000 people have already taken it, and we are so happy to share the love with you as well!
http://jodichapman.com/soulful-love-ecourse

Free Soul Clarity Reading + Soulful Love Special!

*** Thank you to everyone who participated! I’ll be back with more readings next month! ***

Happy February! It’s that time again where I’ll pull one Soul Clarity Card for each person who leaves a comment below!

I do this on the first day of every month, and it’s always so much fun to offer these messages straight from my soul to yours.

Before we start the messages, I wanted to let you know about my Monthly Special! 

To celebrate the month of love, I’ve made our popular Soulful Love Ecourse pay-what-you-want!

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Over 2,000 people have taken this course that my husband, Dan, and I created, and we’ve received such positive feedback about how it has opened hearts and helped past participants give and also receive love.

It’s helped so many begin to love themselves and be ready to love another. We’re both humbled and grateful that loving relationships have formed because of this course. And relationships have strengthened because of this course.

We wanted to do something special this month to honor love and also make this course available for everyone. We believe that love is the common denominator that connects us all. And we believe that the more we focus on love, the more we attract it into our lives.

For these reasons, we’re happy to let everyone pay whatever they want for this course all month long! It normally sells for $77, but you can sign up right now and take it for whatever price feels right for you!

If you’re ready to open up to new love or strengthen the love that you already have, we  hope you’ll sign up. This course is changing lives, and we would love for it to change yours, too!

Click here to sign up!

And now for your free Soul Clarity reading! :)

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The Soul Clarity Card deck includes 48 cards to help you get clarity on what your soul wants you to know. My soul speaks to me in concise phrases, and so these cards were created with that in mind. Each card contains a guided action for you to consider – something to help you live soulfully and mindfully.

I believe that the answers are always within us, but sometimes our light gets covered up by life – all of the to-dos and the shoulds and work and errands and hurt and anger and all sorts of gunk. And it can be hard to sift through all of that and find our way home – back to our soul. These cards are a tool to help you on your journey back home.

Each card contains words that your soul needs you to hear. And whichever card you choose will be exactly the one you need in that exact moment. That’s just how it works!

(You can learn all about the cards and even order your own deck here!)

I can’t wait to pull a card for you for free!

Here’s how it works: I’ll pull one card for anyone who leaves a comment at the end of the post by 11:59 pm pst today (2/1/16)! If your comment is posted before then, I promise I will pull a card for you. Each month when I open this up, I receive hundreds of requests, so please be patient with me. (If you happen to miss this deadline, please know that I’ll do it again on 3/1.)

All you have to write is “Yes, please!” or something similar. Please don’t feel that you need to share what you are looking to heal or what you would like guidance for. You are more than welcome to, but it’s not necessary. I know that this can be very personal, and your soul and the universe already know what you need. (If you are reading this via a reader or email, please click here to be taken to the post.)

A technical tip for you: To be able to find your comment and not receive a barrage of emails by subscribing to comments, you can go to the comments page and do a search for your name. (On a PC, you press the “control” button + the “f” button.) This makes it super easy to scroll to your name and your reading. :)

Big hug to each of you.

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P.S. – Remember that you can pay what you want this month only for our Soulful Love Ecourse! Click here to sign up!

Permission to Step Away

jodi and big seashellI just returned from the beach.

After a busy morning that was filled with answering more emails than I even knew was possible and figuring out all sorts of administrative things for my business, I could feel my energy leaving my body very quickly. It was the kind of day where it seemed like I was putting out one mini fire after the next, and I needed a break.

Thankfully, I now have the perfect solution for times like these: head to the beach. 

So I bundled up, and within minutes was in the middle of the beautiful haven that you see in the photo.

Ahhhh….I could immediately breathe again. I wasn’t thinking about work or emails or figurative fires or anything that needed to be done or anyone who needed something from me or anything at all. I was simply THERE. Taking it in. Immersing myself in the ocean’s energy. And it felt wonderful. amazing. full. loving. perfect. 

I walked around, picked up shells (including the amazing one in the photo), watched the waves come in and out, enjoyed birds who were playing in the water. Each moment at the beach brought me closer to myself – to my soul.

I am not my work. My work is a part of me, but it is certainly not all of me.

Sometimes I forget that.

It’s become such a habit for me to hunker down and futilely attempt to get through the never-ending work pile – no matter how long it takes or no matter what cost the stress and pushing has on my own wellbeing. For so many years, I’ve had the mindset of just doing it and getting it done and finishing and checking it all off and writing back quickly and being as perfect as I could along the way.

Well, that is all a part of my past that I am choosing to not bring into my present and certainly not into my future. 

I get to choose. 

I forget that sometimes. 

I don’t have to push and push and push. 

I want to feel good. I want to honor my own needs. I want to be filled with vitality. I want my heart and soul to be full again. 

That’s what I get from the ocean. That’s how I feel at the ocean. And that’s why my soul asked me so emphatically to come to the ocean. It was time to welcome my entire self back home again – the part that had been missing for so many years. I’m just no longer okay with allowing this part of myself who just wants to be liked and be good and be perfect and be successful continue to run the show – continue to get all of the air time. I’m finding that all of these things are no longer nearly as important to me and are fading away more and more each day – being replaced by something much fuller and much more sustainable.

My own happiness matters.

I see that now. 

And so this means that I will take more breaks, and I will go to the beach. Even if (especially if) my work plate is overflowing and it doesn’t seem like a good idea. 

Because when I am there, I remember who I am. And that is the biggest gift that I could ever give to myself and also to anyone else. Me. All of me. Not the resentful, exhausted, depleted, overworked, overwhelmed part. But the loving, full, balanced, joyful, and energized part.

That’s who I want to offer to myself and to the world.

And it all starts with choosing to step away for however long it takes. It starts with setting boundaries and remembering how important it is to give myself time and space to recharge.

So that’s what I’m doing.

It most likely will mean that I won’t be responding to emails as promptly as I would like. It most likely will mean that I won’t be sending as many newsletters out as I had planned on. It most likely will mean that I won’t be interacting on social media as much as I have in the past.

But it will definitely mean that when I do respond and when I am there, I will be much more present, full, and happy. And isn’t that all we want for ourselves and for each other? To really enjoy our lives and to really be able to embrace them?

I think so.

I would love for each of us to make more space for what matters most: ourselves. I would love for each of us to give ourselves permission to step away in whatever way feels best for us for whatever amount of time helps us come home to ourselves again. It matters. We matter. So, so much.

Hugs,

jodi

 

Dreams Really Do Come True

dreams come true copyI’m writing this from my new home on the Oregon coast. It honestly feels surreal to write that – to really take it in.

Just two months ago, I shared here about my dream of wanting to move to the beach – of longing to live by the water and take in the ocean’s energy. For over a year, my soul had been whispering that this is what I needed to fully heal my body and to fully align with my soul. I knew it. I could feel it. But I was afraid to make such a big leap.

Well… I had no idea that declaring this intention to each of you would supercharge my dream and speed it up. I had absolutely no idea that just weeks after I wrote that post that I would be living my dream – spending each day in a beautiful home where the sound of the ocean’s waves lulled me to sleep. I had no idea that it would take just three minutes to go from my driveway to the ocean’s shore. I had no idea that all of this was about to happen – that this huge long-held dream of mine was about to come true.

But it did. It has. It’s real.

I’m still settling into that. I’m still coming to terms (in a good way) with that. I’m still wrapping my brain around that.

I had visualized this for so long that it almost seemed like it would permanently be in the future. I had thought about living here for so long that it seemed perpetually just out of reach – something that would happen “someday.”

Last November, I had one of the biggest health scares of my life when my adrenal glands went into full crisis mode. I was sicker than I have ever been and absolutely terrified. After recovering, something inside me shifted. I realized that I didn’t want to wait on my own happiness any longer. I wanted to allow myself to be fully happy and fully alive and fully healthy. I no longer wanted to allow pushing and pushing and pushing myself to be the norm. I didn’t want to look back one day and think that I was a really good worker and accomplished so many great things all at the expense of my own health and happiness.

I wanted to embrace life. To smile. To laugh. To feel free.

And while I knew that I could do that anywhere, I knew that it would be much easier to do so while at the beach – my soul’s sanctuary.

Getting clear about this intention and really knowing that I was ready was all the universe needed from me. It took over the details and everything fell into place in what felt like record time. Just weeks later, we were living at the beach. Just weeks later!

This is such powerful evidence for me to remember how quickly things can happen once we align ourselves with our dreams.

So here I am. A new house. A new life. New priorities. New boundaries. A new awe of this amazing universe. And a new love affair. While I’ve never lived near the ocean before, I have always felt a strong connection to it. I always feel the most alive and the most myself when I am near it. I am completely in love with it.

Dan and I went to the beach for the first time on Christmas Day to celebrate our wish/dream coming true, and I immediately burst into tears upon seeing it. I was home. Everything that has happened in my life has brought me right to this moment – has led me back home.

And that truly is a miracle.

Dreams really do come true.

They really do.

We just have to find a way to align ourselves with them. Oftentimes this means stepping out of the way and simply letting the universe take over and watching the miracles flow in.

That’s what I’ve done, and I am in absolute awe and will most likely stay in this space for a long, long while.

I am just so grateful to be here in this dream space and to share this moment with each of you.

It’s my wish that your dreams come to life this year as well. We are all so deserving of having all of our dreams fully realized. We really are.

j christmas seashell us at beach on new years

Hugs and love,

jodi

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Free Soul Clarity Reading + Pay What You Want Ecourse!

***Thank you to everyone who participated! I’m wishing you all a wonderful start to the new year!***

Happy 2016! I hope your new year is starting off in a wonderful way. I’m so happy to begin the year by pulling one Soul Clarity Card for each person who leaves a comment below!

I do this on the first day of every month, and it’s always so much fun to offer these messages straight from my soul to yours.

Before we start the messages, I wanted to share a few updates with you:

1 – Pay What You Want for Our Popular Soulful Journaling Ecourse!

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The start of the year is a great time to go within, reflect on your life, look back at the previous year and forward to the coming year, and connect (or reconnect) with your journal…and with yourself! For this reason, I’m so happy to offer this pay-what-you-want special for our most popular ecourse that my husband and I created!

Over 3,000 people have taken this course, and we’ve received such positive feedback about how it has helped beautiful souls slow down and connect with their authentic selves.

Whether you’re a regular journaler or you’re just getting started, this course was created to support you in connecting with your inner wisdom through writing. We believe that the answers have always been inside of us, and it’s our intention that this course will help you tap into your wise self.

We are such huge believers in the power of journaling, and we’re excited to offer this monthly special where you can pay what you want for this course! It normally sells for $77, but you can sign up right now and take it for whatever price feels right for you!

Click here to sign up!

 

2 – Come Join Us in Our Next Book! 

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We would love for you to join us as a contributing author in our upcoming book, 365 Moments of Grace!

It’s such a great way to share your words, inspire others, and expand your audience! Almost 300 days are already reserved, so please be sure to sign up soon while there is still space! 

Please email me at submissions@jodichapman.com if you have any questions!

So much gratitude to everyone who has already signed up. I can’t wait to read your stories!

Click here to learn more and reserve your spot!

 

3. Giveaway Winners Announced!

Thank you to everyone who entered my holiday giveaway here on Soul Speak! It was wonderful to read what you learned about yourself in 2015 and what you’re excited about bringing into your life in 2016. Let’s all make it so!

Here are the prize winners:

  • Dar Kneller – 1 copy of our brand-new bestselling book: 365 Ways to Connect with Your Soul ($18.95 value)
  • Brooke – One Deck of Soul Clarity Cards ($17.95 value)!
  • Julie Jones – 3 Soulful Journals of your choice ($30 value)!

Congratulations to each of you! I’ve emailed you all for your addresses so I can mail your goodies out.

And now for your free Soul Clarity reading! :)

about-the-cards

The Soul Clarity Card deck includes 48 cards to help you get clarity on what your soul wants you to know. My soul speaks to me in concise phrases, and so these cards were created with that in mind. Each card contains a guided action for you to consider – something to help you live soulfully and mindfully.

I believe that the answers are always within us, but sometimes our light gets covered up by life – all of the to-dos and the shoulds and work and errands and hurt and anger and all sorts of gunk. And it can be hard to sift through all of that and find our way home – back to our soul. These cards are a tool to help you on your journey back home.

Each card contains words that your soul needs you to hear. And whichever card you choose will be exactly the one you need in that exact moment. That’s just how it works!

(You can learn all about the cards and even order your own deck here!)

I can’t wait to pull a card for you for free!

Here’s how it works: I’ll pull one card for anyone who leaves a comment at the end of the post by 11:59 pm pst today (1/1/16)! If your comment is posted before then, I promise I will pull a card for you. Each month when I open this up, I receive hundreds of requests, so please be patient with me. (If you happen to miss this deadline, please know that I’ll do it again on 2/1.)

All you have to write is “Yes, please!” or something similar. Please don’t feel that you need to share what you are looking to heal or what you would like guidance for. You are more than welcome to, but it’s not necessary. I know that this can be very personal, and your soul and the universe already know what you need. (If you are reading this via a reader or email, please click here to be taken to the post.)

A technical tip for you: To be able to find your comment and not receive a barrage of emails by subscribing to comments, you can go to the comments page and do a search for your name. (On a PC, you press the “control” button + the “f” button.) This makes it super easy to scroll to your name and your reading. :)

Big hug to each of you.

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