Discovering My Type – Plus a Free Ecourse!

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For the past several years, I’ve been on an inner journey. I’ve been on a journey to connect with my soul and to dig deep within my heart and listen to its whispers. I’ve been on a journey to discover why I’m here, what my purpose is, and how I can best support others while living that purpose.

It’s been such a beautiful journey that’s been full of surprises and insight and amazing experiences. But, it hasn’t necessarily been a balanced journey. Throughout my life, I’ve tended to be an “all or nothing” type of person. And, when I decide to do something, I give everything I have to it – 110%. So, while it’s true that I’ve been discovering so much about my inner self, in the process I sort of left behind my outer self. I just didn’t pay attention to how I looked or what I wore or how I felt about how I looked or what I wore. I figured that I had more important work that needed to be done, and if I’m being completely honest: it seemed a bit frivolous to even think about my hair or makeup or clothes when so many people needed support and there was such pain in the world that had nothing to do with how I felt about what I was wearing.

This went on for years. I would get up, throw something on without giving it much thought at all, barely brush my hair, and immediately get to work: writing, connecting, and serving in the best way I knew how. I fell into a routine of wearing two things: black shirts and jeans. It was easy, and I didn’t have to think about it. I figured I was too busy to spend brain power on anything other than surviving and sharing messages of love.

And yet, a part of me longed for self care. And a part of me knew that I would feel really good and loved up and nourished if I felt good about what I was wearing and how I looked. And eventually, this part rose to the surface and began making some changes.

It started a couple of years ago. I began slowly bringing new clothes into my wardrobe that represented how I felt inside. I found myself being drawn to soft colors – pinks, purples, and grays – rather than black. And each time I would bring something home and put it into my closet, I felt a little more alive – a little more myself. I found that I thought more about my appearance and made a bit more effort some days to get ready – not for anyone else, but for me. (I’m super lucky that I have a loving husband where I can wear absolutely anything and he will compliment me.)

I felt myself slowly awakening from the outside in rather than the inside out. And, it’s much like the chicken and the egg. I’m not sure which came first: if all of the soul work that I was doing radiated its way out to my outer appearance or if beginning to focus on my outer appearance helped bring me closer to my inner self. And I’m finding that it doesn’t matter which way it went. All that matters is that I’m now seeing how both parts of me are equally important: the inner and also the outer. They are all me. And it’s an act of self love rather than frivolousness to honor each of them.

And so, it was absolute perfect timing when Carol Tuttle’s team approached me last fall and asked if I would like to try out their Dressing Your Truth® ecourse that helps you discover your beauty type. I had several friends recommend this course – saying that it was super soulful and helpful, and so I immediately took it as a sign that it was meant to be.

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I have to say, that I had absolutely no expectations going into this course, and I was completely blown away after completing it. I learned that I am a TYPE 2℠,which is the soft, subtle, introverted, and sensitive type.

Bingo! I never realized it before, but the clothes that I was feeling more drawn to in the last few years (the soft pinks and purples) were part of my type. As I was learning more about who I truly was at the soul level, my clothes were reflecting that as well. It’s just fascinating!

In addition to going over in detail more about my type, it also included makeup application techniques, hair styling tips, and tons of clothing recommendations.

As a Type 2 energy, I’m not meant to wear black because it’s a color that doesn’t honor my type of beauty. I have learned that more subtle colors with hues of gray in them feel (and look) much better on me. And so it makes perfect sense why it never felt quite right on me. If you look at the picture above, you can see my before and after shot. The before picture feels like a representative of who I thought I was, and the after picture feels like the true me – the person I am at my core.

I love that this course wasn’t just about outer beauty. It was about beauty at the soul level. Carol takes it so much deeper than simply talking about swatches or lipstick. She really goes into our psyche and helps us bring our best self forward so that we feel amazing in our own body.

It’s been such a blessing for me to have gone through this course and to have learned more about my Type of Beauty. It’s truly been life changing.

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Now that I am aware of my type, I find myself going through my closet and saying goodbye to anything that no longer fits who I am. For me, that means I’m letting go of loud prints, bright colors, and anything that isn’t super comfortable on my skin. And it means that I’m saying hello to soft fabrics and subtle shades and clothes that make me feel most like who I truly am – so that my outside is a direct reflection of my inside.

I love that Carol and her team have created an amazing online store. It’s broken down by type, so I can go into the Type 2 area and everything is there just for me! I had to test it out, and so I bought these two shirts:



They are amazingly soft and comfortable! In fact, I’m wearing the rose-colored one right now!

I’m truly so happy that I had the opportunity to go through this course. It helped me to fill in this missing piece for myself. To continue honoring my inner self while paying attention to and honoring my outer self. They are both me, and they are both equally important. And this course was such a beautiful way of bringing them both together.


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DYT-Which-Type-are-You-Banner-200x200If you would like to discover your beauty type as well, I’m so excited to share that Carol is giving away her Beauty Profiling ecourse for free (a $39 value)!

Her Beauty Profiling system identifies 4 Types of beauty that women express and teaches you how to identify your type of beauty. Your Type shows up in your facial features, body language, thoughts, feelings, and personality.


Here are the types:

  • A bright, animated Type 1 woman
  • A subtle, soft, Type 2 woman
  • A rich, dynamic Type 3 woman
  • A bold, striking Type 4 woman

When you discover your Type:

  • you find that your so-called flaws are actually your best features.
  • you learn what you need to do to bring your natural beauty out.
  • and you feel freer than ever to just be yourself!

Click here to sign up for free!


After you’ve taken the free ecourse and have discovered what type you are, I would love for you to come back here and share! Like I said, learning more about my type has helped me in so many ways, and it’s my hope that it will be a healing journey for you as well.

Here’s to all of us discovering (and living) our truth!



5 Books that Are Speaking to My Soul


I love books. I always have. Some of my favorite early memories consist of completely immersing myself in whichever book I happened to be reading at the time. I would read for hours and hours – never wanting to put the book down and feeling both gratified and saddened when I reached the final page. Thankfully, though, there was always another book to pick up and begin.

Over the past few years, I haven’t read nearly as much as I wanted to. It wasn’t something that consciously happened – I just got busy. Work took center stage. Life took center stage. And reading for pleasure somehow seemed just a bit too decadent. It just didn’t seem like there was time. That all changed last summer when I found myself spending most of my time on the couch – my body was completely exhausted from adrenal fatigue, and my mind wanted nothing more than to soak up some healing words. 

So I started reading again. And since then, I have become a sponge – reading, reading, and reading some more. I have stacks of books next to me at all times. I finish one and immediately begin another. And it has been such a blessing for my soul. I have found my home again among all of these loving, healing words.

I wanted to share just a few of the books that have especially spoken to my soul over the past few months. They have become very personal to me – books that speak to where I currently am and where I am wanting to go.

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The Joy of Burnout: How the End of the World Can Be a New Beginning – Dina Glouberman

I love this book immensely. So many books about burnout feel dark and negative. So many sort of make burnout to be somehow a bad thing, rather than a blessing. This book shows how reaching a state of burnout is truly a beautiful thing – it means that we are hearing our soul’s message and are ready to do something about it. It’s that space in between feeling completely powerless and embracing our true power. It’s that space where we give ourselves permission to stop, to breathe, and to listen.

I’ve written candidly about my own journey through burnout here on Soul Speak, and I completely am in alignment with this book’s message. It has been one of the best experiences that I’ve ever gone through because it’s bringing me back home – back to myself. And that is such a beautiful thing.

Here are a few of my favorite quotes from it:

“Burnout is ultimately positive if we are open to its message. This is because it asks us to become more of who we really are.”

“Burnout is the result of having become better able to hear our soul but not yet daring to listen. Burnout demands that we listen.”

“Burnout could be defined as joylessness. Yet burnout forces us to take a step towards joy. We won’t stop, so burnout stops us. We won’t make space for ourselves, so we burn out and all we have is space. And it is out of that space that the joy eventually comes.”

You can learn more about it by clicking here.

download (1) 2. Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires – Esther and Jerry Hicks

For years, I had such a strong aversion to the Abraham-Hicks’ teachings. As a skeptic, I thought it was all just a hoax, and I truly didn’t want to be anywhere near their books.

I now know that I simply wasn’t ready for this message and these teachings. And, thankfully, they kept circling back around my life until I was ready to open up and truly hear them.

That happened last August when we read one of their books in the Soulful Life Sanctuary. I couldn’t believe how much it resonated with me at such a deep level. I was in awe of how everything I knew to be true was right there on the pages. Since then, I’ve gotten all of their books and all of their DVDs and have completely immersed myself in their teachings.

I love that their message is so simple, so loving, and so filled with truth. It speaks directly to my soul, and I am so happy to have this beautiful connection. Basically, their teachings are that we are here to feel good; we are here to expand and grow; and we can have everything we want if we are a vibrational match to it.

While I love all of the books that I have read by them, I chose to feature this one because it’s the most accessible and a great one if you’re just being introduced to their writing for the first time.

Here are two of my favorite quotes from it:

“Once you begin to understand the correlation between what you are thinking, what you are feeling, and what you are receiving, now you have it. Now you hold all of the keys that are necessary to get from wherever you are to wherever you want to be, on all subjects.”

“Be easy about all of this. You tend to take life so seriously. Life is supposed to be fun, you know.”

You can learn more about it by clicking here.

download (3)3. Adrenal Fatigue: The 21st Century Stress Syndrome – James Wilson

When I first found out that I had adrenal fatigue last summer, I wanted to find out everything I could about it. My doctor gave me some information, but I wanted to know more – to truly understand what was happening in my body.

While I have read several books on adrenal fatigue since then, this book is the most comprehensive and helpful by far. It helped me see how this happened, why it happened, and then laid out a realistic program to help me recover.

Healing from adrenal fatigue isn’t just about taking some supplements and getting more sleep. It’s a lifestyle change, and this book covers every aspect of it – from diet to supplements to movement to sleep to emotional factors to so much more. It’s a truly holistic approach, which I love.

You can learn more about it by clicking here.

download4. Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder – Arianna Huffington

I love Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, and last fall I watched an episode where Arianna Huffington was sharing about her brand-new book.

Everything she said spoke to me, and I began to read it shortly after.

In it, Arianna writes about success and shares in such personal and loving ways how the true definition of success must include what she calls “the third metric,” which includes our own well-being, our intuition and connection to our soul, our sense of wonder, and our ability to give.

She weaves together her own personal stories along with scientific research – helping us see just how important this new measure of success truly is.

It came into my life at the perfect time: while I was recovering from burnout. I had been measuring my own success from a more traditional sense without even realizing it. I had forgotten in many ways about honoring my own soul, making sure I made time to rest and replenish, and having downtime to simply BE.

I truly think every single person should read this book. It helps us redefine our own version of success and embrace a more holistic version that includes time for all that matters so much that we oftentimes forget about.

Here are some of my favorite quotes from it:

“We think, mistakenly, that success is the result of the amount of time we put in at work, instead of the quality of time we put in.”

“Like airlines, we routinely overbook ourselves, fearful of any unused capacity, confident that we can fit everything in. We fear that if we don’t cram as much as possible into our day, we might miss out on something fabulous, important, special, or career advancing. But there are no rollover minutes in life. We don’t get to keep all that time we “save.” It’s actually a very costly way to live. My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.”

“Bring ourselves back to that place of stillness, imperturbability, and loving—until it becomes second nature to return quickly to what is our true nature.”

You can learn more about it by clicking here.

download (4) 5. Gift from the Sea – Anne Morrow Lindbergh

I first read this book many years ago when someone gave it to me as a college graduation gift. At the time, I was in a very different place in my life: excited to get out into the world and start my first real job. Slowing down and reflecting just weren’t part of my vocabulary at the time. Fast forward many years later, and this book is exactly what I needed, and I’m so happy that it circled back around again so that I could fully appreciate its wisdom.

It was written in 1955 – before the internet and cell phones and all of the other ways that keep us connected to technology and each other 24/7. And yet, even then, Lindbergh was feeling pulled and scattered and needed to get away to embrace solitude and stillness. Lindbergh gave herself permission to go away to the sea for a brief time and simply allowed herself to write, be still, and explore her innermost thoughts.

It speaks to me so deeply right now because I’m in such a similar place. I, too, have taken time away from the outside world in order to be able to hear my soul’s whispers. And I, too, have a strong longing to be at the sea. I know that I will get there sooner rather than later, and I partly have Anne to thank for this loving reminder.

Here are two of my favorite quotes from it:

“If one is out of touch with oneself, then one cannot touch others.”

“What a commentary on our civilization , when being alone is considered suspect; when one  has to apologize for it, make excuses, hide the fact that one practices it – like a secret vice!”

You can learn more about it by clicking here.


How about you? Have you read any of these books? Did they speak to you as well? If so, I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. And if you haven’t read them yet, I highly recommend you check them out. I would also love to hear about any books that are currently speaking to you. Feel free to share them below!



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It’s such a loving space, and I am so excited for you to join us! It’s a perfect space for heart-centered solopreneurs, healers, writers, coaches, and those who want to share their messages with the world and be supported while doing so!

You can learn all about it by clicking here.

Lightening Up

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For several years now, at the start of each new year, my sweetie and I have had the tradition of choosing one word to represent our intention for the entire year. (I originally heard of this idea in Leonie Dawson’s Creating Your Shining Life workbook, which I highly recommend if you don’t already have it!)

In 2012, I chose the word Soar. I had spent years hiding behind my gift company, and I was ready to step out into the world and break free of any fears that were holding me back. I wanted to connect with others and share my truth. I wanted to live a life where my soul got to soar! I wanted my dream life and my actual life to be one in the same!

The year was a flurry of activity and networking and meeting and connecting with so many new people. I got exactly what I asked for and achieved so many things that I had only dreamed of before, which I was really excited about. The only problem was that by the end of the year, I had spent so much time in motion that I had forgotten to take care of myself along the way.

And so, in 2013, I chose the word Nourish. I wanted it to be a year filled with extra self care, extra love, and extra rest and relaxation. And while I wouldn’t say that it was exactly how I had envisioned it, I did make more time than I had before for rest and pampering.

And then, at the end 2013, my sweet dog-ter, Xena, passed away from cancer. My heart was completely broken. I had never felt such a strong connection to an animal before. Our souls were (and still are) connected, and I could feel how our love would never go away. So the word I chose was Love. I spent most of the year grieving this huge loss and giving myself extra love and space to be exactly where I was. I received so many loving signs from her (almost daily) throughout the year, and it felt so good to know that she was still with me. But it also felt really sad. And it was such a heavy-hearted year for me where I spent almost every single day crying.

This year, I knew that I was ready to bring joy into my heart and life again. I felt ready to move forward with a lightness in my heart. I felt ready for a fresh start and for a big change. And so, I chose the word Light.

To me, Light represents two things: saying goodbye to heaviness and also embracing my connection to my soul and to the universe. 

I am so ready for this. I tend to be on the serious side, and I keep hearing my soul say that it’s time to have some fun – to lighten up, to embrace joy, to play, to laugh, and to feel free.

I just started my year of silence, and I am so happy to be going into it with this fresh perspective. I didn’t want the heaviness attached to it. I wanted being silent to be a treat – a way to connect with my soul and find peace in my heart. Not some sort of penance or punishment. And so, having Light as my word feels so wonderful in every way.

It makes me feel like I can fly. Not in the way that Soar did, but more in a spirit-filled, connected-to-everything kind of way. And that feels amazing. I look forward to seeing how Light shows up in my life and in my heart throughout the year.

How about you? Did you choose a word for the year? If so, I would love for you to share it in the comments below. And if not, I highly recommend you take some time to think about it. It’s such a great way to consciously create your life! 



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It’s such a lovely place where we support each other in reaching our dreams. I absolutely would love for you to join us!

You can learn all about it by clicking here.

Free Soul Clarity Message + Soul Shakers Discount!

***Thank you to everyone who participated! I’ll be back next month with more readings!***

Happy 2015! I hope your new year is starting off in a wonderful way. I’m so happy to begin the year by pulling one Soul Clarity Card for each person who leaves a comment below!

I do this on the first day of every month, and it’s always so much fun to offer these messages straight from my soul to yours.

Before we start the messages, I wanted to let you know about my Monthly Special! 

Membership to the Soul Shakers’ Online Community is on sale – more than 50% off this month only!

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If you’re ready to reach your dreams and be supported in a loving space, Soul Shakers is for you!

Soul Shakers is a loving online community that my husband and I co-facilitate for those who are ready to reach their dreams. It’s for those who know that we are more powerful when we support each other. It’s for those who are ready to ignite the world with their message!

Membership includes monthly group sessions, accountability partners, a detailed dream questionnaire, soulful videos, a private Facebook group, and monthly goal setting, + much more!

You can join us for more than 50% off this month only! Prices start at just $29!

Over the past two years, I’ve seen the current Soul Shakers create their own websites, begin and finish their coaching certification, start businesses, embrace their callings, and leap toward their dreams!

I can’t wait for you to join us and reach your dreams, too! It’s such a loving, powerful space! 

Click here to learn more and join us!

And now for your free Soul Clarity reading! :)


The Soul Clarity Card deck includes 48 cards to help you get clarity on what your soul wants you to know. My soul speaks to me in concise phrases, and so these cards were created with that in mind. Each card contains a guided action for you to consider – something to help you live soulfully and mindfully.

I believe that the answers are always within us, but sometimes our light gets covered up by life – all of the to-dos and the shoulds and work and errands and hurt and anger and all sorts of gunk. And it can be hard to sift through all of that and find our way home – back to our soul. These cards are a tool to help you on your journey back home.

Each card contains words that your soul needs you to hear. And whichever card you choose will be exactly the one you need in that exact moment. That’s just how it works!

(You can learn all about the cards and even order your own deck here!)

I can’t wait to pull a card for you for free!

Here’s how it works: I’ll pull one card for anyone who leaves a comment at the end of the post by 11:59 pm pst today (1/1/15)! If your comment is posted before then, I promise I will pull a card for you. Each month when I open this up, I receive hundreds of requests, so please be patient with me. (If you happen to miss this deadline, please know that I’ll do it again on 2/1.)

All you have to write is “Yes, please!” or something similar. Please don’t feel that you need to share what you are looking to heal or what you would like guidance for. You are more than welcome to, but it’s not necessary. I know that this can be very personal, and your soul and the universe already know what you need. (If you are reading this via a reader or email, please click here to be taken to the post.)

A technical tip for you: To be able to find your comment and not receive a barrage of emails by subscribing to comments, you can go to the comments page and do a search for your name. (On a PC, you press the “control” button + the “f” button.) This makes it super easy to scroll to your name and your reading. :)

Big hug to each of you.

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P.S. – Remember that membership to Soul Shakers is more than 50% off this month only! It’s a wonderful community of beautiful souls reaching their dreams, and I would love for you to join us! Click here to learn more!

We Can’t Possibly Know


It constantly amazes me how little I truly know. The older I get, the more my world expands. And the more my world expands, the more possibilities open up. And these possibilities help me realize that my world and my “knowing” is such a small piece of this vast, infinite universe.

For most of my life, these thoughts and realizations would have been extremely unsettling for me. For most of my life, I’ve wanted to be in complete control. I’ve wanted to know how something would work out and how I would get there and how it would all end up and how everything would happen well before it happened just so I could make sure that everything would be okay when it did eventually happen. And quite honestly, this trying to control each aspect of my life has been absolutely exhausting (and completely futile, as it turns out).

I could go into why I have felt the need to attempt this high level of control throughout my life, and I could share how doing so has made me feel more secure while living a life where the foundation didn’t always feel super solid. I could explain everything that happened in my childhood and early adulthood that led me to living this way and thinking this way and behaving this way and controlling myself and my life this way. And it would all make perfect sense to you (and also to me). Everything would line up, and we could all agree that this was a logical way to go through life for so many years.

Except, I would so much rather focus on where I am today – right here in this exact moment. I would so much rather give my energy to all that I have learned and become and expanded into. I would so much rather share from this space of possibility and faith-filled uncertainty than go into the past and replay what has become a broken record of doing something one way that didn’t particularly feel good but I continued to do simply because it was the way that it was always done. 

Yes. It feels so much better to write, here in this moment, from a space of possibility and unknowing. And to admit that I have absolutely no idea what’s going to happen at any moment in the future. None at all. Each morning when I wake up, I have an outline of how I think the day will transpire, and each day I’m so amused that it never ever went that way at all. Sometimes good things happen that I hadn’t accounted for. And sometimes sad things happen that break my heart. Either way, I didn’t know that they were about to happen. And either way, there is nothing that I could have done to control the outcome of them – to prevent them from happening (in the case of things that were sad) or speed up or look forward to them happening (in the case of things that were happy).

And so, given this space of complete unknowing that I’ve been living in and this space of realizing how little control I have on what happens externally in my life, I have been taking a new approach that consists of two things:

  1. I have given myself permission to lighten up and to relax and to simply be part of this world without trying to control it.
  2. And I have been putting a lot more faith in remembering that I live in a loving universe and that everything that happens is for my highest good.

These two shifts have completely changed my life. In knowing that I don’t know what will happen and that I have absolutely no control over what will happen, I no longer have to try to control my world and the world around me with such tight fists. I no longer have to push myself so hard to work and create and do absolutely everything in order for anything to get done.

I no longer have to delude myself into believing that I know things that I can’t possibly know simply because I think I will feel better knowing them. I can accept that I know very, very little. And in doing so, I can relax into and embrace a universal knowing that is filled with faith and love and absolutely everything that I will ever need to experience the life that I have longed for.

Now, this doesn’t mean that I am completely passive in my life. It doesn’t mean that I just lie around all day and wait for the universe to bring me whatever I am asking for. It means that the way I go about living has changed. I am now consciously focusing on how I feel about what I’m doing. If it feels like a struggle, I shift direction. I take a break. I stop and ask myself why. I reflect. I go deeper within and really look to see why I am doing something – is the action coming from my ego (because I think I have to or need to) or my soul (because it’s for my highest good).

I have made relief a huge part of my day-to-day experience. If I feel relieved, I know I’m living from my soul. If I feel tight and constricted and stressed, I know that it’s a good time to take some deep breaths and stop pushing against my soul’s desires and start relaxing into them.

This year has been filled with so many shifts for me – many of which I am still processing and sifting through. But I have to say that relaxing into my life rather than trying to control it resonates so deeply for me. I don’t have to know what’s ahead. I can’t possibly know what’s ahead. All I truly can know is that I live in a universe that’s filled with love. And knowing that feels like enough for me in this moment. It feels like a huge exhale that’s filled with a whole lot of relief.

We don’t have to have it all figured out. We don’t have to know it all. In fact, we can’t possibly know it all, even if we wanted to more than anything. But we can embody faith. We can embody truth. We can embody a deeper knowing that goes beyond our rational thoughts and our egos and our minds and our physical experience. We can trade in our need for control and replace it with our want to feel good. And we can shift into this open, loved-up space whenever we choose to. I love that so much. It’s such an open-hearted, soul-filled way to walk through life, which is what I wish for each of us.