I’m writing this post from my new “office” – the couch in my living room that I’ve been spending most of my time on for the past month. (My body decided that it was time for some enforced rest, which I’ve been giving it – albeit reluctantly and begrudgingly at times.)
I’ve postponed all of my Skype sessions for the time being, cut way back on my work hours, and have focused solely on relaxing, de-stressing, and simply allowing myself to BE.
I’ve always believed that there is a gift in every situation – no matter how painful it feels when we’re in it. And usually, I can go back to each experience and find the nuggets and learn and grow. But this time – with the help of a great book that I’m reading – I’m finding the nuggets while I’m still in the midst of what could be viewed as a not-so-great experience, which is pretty exciting.
It’s my hope that in sharing some of my nuggets, you’ll be able to look at your own present-moment life experiences and find some nuggets, too!
We started a book club this month in the Soulful Life Sanctuary, and the first book that we selected is The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent: Living the Art of Allowing by Abraham-Hicks. (You can learn more about it here.)
To be completely honest, I have never read any of their books before. I have come across them in the past and felt a strong aversion to them, actually, because of the channeling aspect. (Esther channels an energy/source called Abraham and shares the messages/teachings through her writing.) For my skeptical mind, they seemed too “out there.” However, during my own awakening over the past few years, I have gone from not believing in anything to witnessing such beautiful miracles that I want to remain open to see what else is possible.
I also know that oftentimes when I feel such a strong aversion to something, it’s something to pay attention to. So when this book was chosen by the sanctuary members, I took it as a sign that it was time for me to dive in and see what it was all about.
I’m so glad I stayed open because it’s absolutely amazing. I haven’t even finished it yet, and I’ve already filled up pages and pages of my journal with notes and passages that I want to remember.
This book is about surrendering to what is – allowing ourselves to stop going against the current in our life and give ourselves permission to stop resisting whatever is happening and accept it. Because it’s in the resistance that we feel pain and attract more of that into our life. When we accept whatever is happening and find the positive aspects of it, we raise our vibration and align with the universal flow and our own divine nature.
Like I mentioned above, my first couple of weeks on the couch weren’t fun at all. I was in full resistance mode. I was thinking about everything that I couldn’t do – all of the negative aspects that this exhaustion was bringing into my life. I was feeling betrayed by my body and just wanted it to heal already – I had things to do!
And then, I began to shift (thanks in large part to this book) and also to endless chats with my husband, who is such a wise, loving soul. I began to shift from negative to positive. I believe that we live in a loving universe, and so that means that whatever I’m going through is for my highest good. And when I stopped resisting and started allowing, things began to flow much more easily.
One of the exercises in the book is to take a situation that you’re struggling with and write down all of the positive aspects of it. I did this a few nights ago with my struggle with feeling so exhausted.
I was amazed at how I wrote a full page of benefits in just a few minutes! It was like my soul was so happy that I had shifted my focus, and it was super excited to help me see all of the ways that this experience was helping me.
I saw that without this level of exhaustion, I wouldn’t have made the time to take care of myself. I always wrote about it and taught about it and told myself that it was something I should also do, but I never actually did it – at least not to the extent that my body and soul needed. Being this exhausted has helped me make self care my number-one priority, which felt really uncomfortable at first but feels really great now.
After spending the last 10 years working 80+ hours/week, I have now set boundaries around my time and am working no more than 25 hours/week and stepping away from all work completely after dinner each night. I have talked about doing this for years and never found the discipline to follow through – until now. Definitely a huge benefit to this exhaustion! It feels so good to slow everything down – to relax and have space in my day. To listen to my body and stop when I’m tired. And to work from the couch is pretty sweet, too. (Definitely an added bonus of working from home.) I’ve spent so many years being a horrible boss to myself, and I’m glad that I’m starting to treat myself how I would like to be treated.
I am also seeing that this exhaustion is helping me open my heart more to faith and to trusting the universe. I was so determined to create financial security, and I just assumed that I had to work around the clock to make it happen. I’ve found that the opposite is actually true. The more I take care of myself, the more the abundance seems to flow. And that’s such great evidence for me to continue trusting that it’s okay to relax – and that struggling isn’t a requirement for success (in any area of life).
Having this downtime has allowed me to get to know myself again. I’ve been so busy with work that I haven’t taken the time to check in and really see how I’m doing – how I’m feeling. It’s been great to have this time and space to do this. It’s also given me much more quality time with Dan. We’ve worked together for 10 years, so we spend a lot of our time together. But this quality time is different. We’re not so braindead, and we can enjoy each other so much more.
These are just a few of the benefits that this current experiencing is bringing to me. It’s so exciting to see that in writing them down, I could feel myself immediately start to shift. Yes, I’m still tired. Yes, I’m still on the couch. No, I don’t know how long I’ll be here. But here’s what’s happened: I’m allowing myself to be wherever I am. I’m no longer resisting what is. And because of this, I am enjoying my life a whole lot more.
And that’s what it’s all about, right? I mean, I could go back to the way things were and work a million hours a week again and be super productive and super disciplined, but if I’m not treating myself with love and if I’m not happy, what’s the point? I would much rather be on the couch – taking it easy, slowing down, and learning how to treat myself with kindness and love – trusting that life will continue to flow beautifully because I’m allowing myself to step into the universal flow rather than continuing to resist it.
How about you? Would you want to try this experiment in your own life? Would you want to choose one situation that you’re currently struggling with and list all of the benefits that are coming from it? Would you be open to shifting from resisting it to allowing it?
If you’re feeling bad now, then you truly have nothing to lose! I think it’s definitely worth a try. If you do try it, please come back and share how it went in the comments. I would love to hear how you’re shifting!
Hugs,
I had my time in the recliner chair last summer. From late June when I broke my foot, through the summer and foot surgery, into September when I was finally able to start physical therapy. I had to sit with my foot elevated all summer. I usually do a few craft shows in the fall and winter, and they didn’t happen for me at all. It was actually fun to go to one and just shop. It was a long road to recovery, but I was able to just sit and be and let my family take care of me (for a change). It took getting used to, but I did. And it was a great experience for my husband and son because they had to do everything I had been doing (and they didn’t even do absolutely everything); and boy were their eyes opened.
I think that slowing down is definitely something I should think of doing especially during the weekends. I’m always go go go until i burn myself out. Thanks for the great advice
Thanks Jodi your words prompted me to reflect and discover that the very thing I hate every day (my job) is actually serving as the driving force behind making the choices that are going to change my life in the direction I want. It’s a gift contained within the struggle. Amazing xxx Thank you
I absolutely adore Abraham as channeled through Esther. Though I can resonate with all of what you talk about regarding illness, Jodi, this post feels like a sign from the Universe! Just last night I was talking to my son about how – though I feel totally aligned and excited about my new blog – is terrifying at the same time. To find comfort, we began talking about one of our favorite topics – Law of Attraction – in particular, the teachings of Abraham. And what I remembered is that the Universe has my back and that all I need to do is surrender and allow and be okay with being in the moment. I keep on saying that I trust, but then taking actions that are contrary to what I say. So this post came to me at the exact right time. 🙂 Tonight I look forward to doing some journaling about this. Thank you <3
Jodi, dear one, making a list of the benefits sounds awesome. I’ve been working with something Deepak Chopra said in a meditation he was leading: To sit across from my illness, to greet it with compassion, and to give it love.
I’ve been using this imagery for a long time now (one of the benefits of being sick right there!) and it is so helpful.
Thanks for sharing this; I’m going to try it. As always, sending lots of lot to you.
Blessings,
Sue
Love this post, Jodi! And so happy to see that you are finding all of those benefits and positive aspects to taking it slowly and giving your body what it needs.
One of my favorite questions to ask my clients, and myself, when experiencing something less than wonderful is always “how is this serving you right now?”…and there is always a good answer (or a whole list of them!!). Sending you much love xo
Some of us out there only have the nuggets, the pearls of wisdom gained, and the very little we can say we own… but are far richer than those with a lot, but have little. If that makes any sense. Taking a big break is really important so your body can reset, and your mind is fresh. I’m glad you enjoyed some time for reflection and introspection. We certainly enjoy the fruits of your labor 🙂
Jodi – I always find your posts inspiring, and I’m amazed at how some of the parallels in our lives appear: very different on the surface, but at the same time, with very similar undercurrents.
I’ve been going through a similar time of setting boundaries: I haven’t hit the level of burnout that you had, and my boundaries aren’t quite as firm as yours yet (I’m working on it though!). But I’m finally, FINALLY, for the first time EVER setting myself “no more than 8 hours of work a day” and “off the PC by 8pm” boundaries and then actually STICKING TO THEM. (Sorry – I had to use capitals there: I’ve had a long history of setting myself boundaries and then completely ignoring them. This is new – and awesome – for me)
Thank you for the shining inspirational light that you are, lady. I read what you write and know that a/ someone else is going through this stuff too; and b/ that someone is finding a way through that I can follow.
It’s a privilege to know you 🙂
Blessings
TANJA
I couldn’t agree more Jodi. Sometimes by doing nothing, we achieve what we REALLY want. As you said, nothing in life has to be a struggle or a burden that we bear, rather we can flow with life and allow it to be. So long as we are aligning with our joy and authenticity, we will arrive exactly where we are meant to be. I am so happy you are taking loving care of yourself – you so deserve it. I send you love, Jess x