A beautiful book and an interview! Keep reading for details!
I write a lot about change. As many of you know, I’ve been going through a huge transition in my life over the past year. I took a leap of faith to focus my attention on writing rather than running my gift business. And what I have found throughout this journey is that when we take that leap and move closer to our dreams, our lives open up.
That doesn’t mean that it’s been an easy transition. All sorts of hidden beliefs are surfacing, actually. And when they do, I try to stop and take a moment to examine them, learn from them, and then keep moving forward.
At any point along this journey, I could’ve stopped. I could have said that it was all too much. That this new life wasn’t what I thought it would be. That my old ways were more comfortable, safe, and secure. And these would all have been true statements. But then I remember that because I said yes to change, I am getting closer to my dreams. And so I keep at it.
My friend, Alex Blackwell, has been on this journey with me. Alex has inspired so many with his authentic writing on The Bridgemaker. He has such a brilliant gift of being vulnerable and strong at the same time. He writes from his heart, and we all feel his love in every word.
He, too, has said yes to change. He, too, knows what it’s like to live a life that isn’t fully being lived. He, too, knows that when we step into our lives fully and completely, we allow magic to happen. He, too, knows how powerful we all truly are – and when we recognize this and accept and love ourselves, true, lasting change can occur.
He just came out with a book for anyone who is ready to create positive change in their life but maybe aren’t sure where to begin. It’s called, Saying Yes to Change: 10 Timeless Life Lessons for Creating Positive Change. It’s a beautifully written book that contains practical steps for making lasting change. (Click here to read more about it.)
I recently sat down to chat with Alex, and I’m so excited to share his responses below!
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You talk about the importance of taking personal responsibility for our lives. I agree that we have to decide first of all that we want to change, and then we have to actually change. Why do you think so many of us resist change?
I think the main reason we resist change is because it’s uncomfortable. Sometimes we stick with what we know – even when we know it’s is not good for us – because the thought of doing something different can be scary.
Consider people who drink too much or may be in abusive relationships: they stay right where they are because it’s what they know. That’s why I think taking the first step to positive change can be one of the most courageous things we ever do in our life.
What advice could you offer someone who truly wants to change a part of their life, but feels stuck in the same old patterns and can’t seem to break out of them?
Two things come to mind, Jodi. The first thing is to acknowledge our reality. I believe to change or heal, we must first acknowledge what’s keeping us stuck. The second action is to take baby steps. Significant change doesn’t happen suddenly; it happens when we do one small action after another until we start moving away from those old patterns.
You offer 10 timeless life lessons for creating positive change. Which of these has been the most influential in your own life?
The two lessons that have brought the most change for me are Lesson Four: Recognize Your Beauty (accept and love your true self) and Lesson Nine: Take Down the White Flag (find the courage to overcome barriers).
You write about your decision many years ago to dramatically change your own life – to spend more time with your family, to be emotionally awake, and to begin to love yourself. How has your life changed because of this conscious choice?
My life is simpler, happier, and I feel more at peace. There seems to be balance now. The problems don’t seem as large as they once did. Perhaps more important, I don’t think I would have started my blog or written Saying Yes to Change: 10 Timeless Life Lessons for Creating Positive Change.
Your dramatic change occurred after attending an intensive weekend seminar, which caused you to open up and face all of the pain that you had suffered throughout your life. Do you think you would’ve been able to have such a lasting change without this intense experience?
The seminar was a wonderful kick start. Before BreakThrough (a spiritual and personal transformation seminar), I felt stuck. The seminar gave me the tools to take a closer look at what my withdrawal was costing me, and then it provided a roadmap to go from where I was to the place I wanted to be – back with my wife and children.
You write about your struggle with low self esteem throughout your life. I think we have all felt unworthy or not good enough at some point in our lives. If you could offer one way for each of us to love ourselves just a little more, what would it be?
I think it begins with loving the little boy or girl inside of us first. For some of us, our sense of feeling unloved can be traced to our childhood. Because I grew up with an alcoholic parent, the little Alex inside of me never felt loved. Since he didn’t receive the love he deserved, I have imagined holding that little boy in my lap and telling him how special he is and how he is worthy to be loved. Today, I do feel loved.
Sometimes we are afraid to change because we aren’t sure what’s on the other side of it. Why is it so important that we surrender to something bigger than ourselves and take that leap of faith?
We were made with a purpose in mind. When we surrender to the plan our creator has in mind, then wonderful things will begin showing up in our lives. Yes, it takes faith to do this, but when we learn to walk by faith and not by sight, the journey is always a little shorter.
What is the one piece of wisdom from your book that you hope everyone will carry with them after reading it?
Creating positive change begins with discovering one powerful truth: You cannot change or heal what you do not acknowledge.
You are someone who inspires so many with your heartfelt words. Who inspires you?
Thank you for the compliment, Jodi. It’s good to know my words do make a difference.
When I see people living their passion, I feel inspired. It takes courage to walk away from what’s comfortable. I’m still learning how to do this, but when I see someone who has, I get so inspired!
If you were granted one wish, what would you wish for?
My wish would be that my children have wonderful, meaningful lives.
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Thank you, Alex. 🙂
Bravo Jodi…and thankyou again Alex
be good to yourselves
David
Just liked Alex on FB. What I want to change is 1) my living location and 2) feeling that I’m not giving back enough.
I’m in the midst of transition myself, clearing away old clutter to really reveal my dream, and to keep it bright and strong… this includes moving to the other side (from where I am now) of this wonderful Earth, and fully trusting that this change is the change I was born to live. At times I’m scared, at times I’m soaring, but every day I keep doing the work, and taking steps towards my dream no matter how babysteps they might be. At times I trust fully, and at times it feels like I’m grasping for support and confirmation… so that I can get right back into trusting, and being present. I always dreamed of doing this, and now that I’m finally manifesting this – everything starts unfolding. In the most healing way possible. Thank you for YOUR support! <3 <3 <3
I have been a fan of Alex Blackwell for some time now and he has truly inspired me day after day. Often times I share his articles with my FB friends and they love them too. I just started reading some of your articles and they are also very inspiring.
I too am transitioning at this time in my life. I have been practicing Reiki for 3 or 4 years now, and I feel this is part of my divine purpose here. At some point I hope this would be my full time job and not my part time job. : )
Can’t wait to read his book!! Namaste!!
I have been a fan of Alex in his website, Facebook page and twitter and I have recently joined your website and page. Alex’s post always inspire me. He touches so many subjects that I need to learn from. I appreciate all his posts and also his replies to my comments. I only started writing myself less than two months ago, and that was a big change in my life as I used to bottle up everything. This change was done thanks to Alex and many other people I have met recently online in inspirational websites. Thank you Alex, Thank you Jodi
Great post, There is a lot of shift and change going on in my own life. Although it can seem challenging I do know it is all perfect and divine. I too have made major shifts in my business and as I continue to step forward into my highest vision and calling there is a little fear there. That is what I am most wanting to change today, so I can step into this next step with faith and courage knowing it is what is mine to do and to be a bigger blessing to others by simply showing up as me! Many blessings to you both! Elizabeth
This book sounds incredible so thank you for the opportunity to win the giveaway! I am in the process of making several changes in my life as I’m about to hit some milestones and want to be the me I’ve always wanted to be. The things he says about being uncomfortable about change and needing to accept and love our true self – well, that’s me! I’m working on it!
Congrats to Carol and Sharla! You each won!
Thank you so much to everyone who commented. Let’s all say yes to change together! 🙂