We are all born self confident. We are all born absolutely perfect.

But we don’t always feel that way, do we? This journey that we are on can be hard on our self confidence. For many of us, that self assured part of us became smaller and smaller with each traumatic life event (a break up, the loss of a job, an illness), or each negative word that was said, or every image that we saw of how we were supposed to look.

And one day, we looked in the mirror and weren’t even sure who was looking back. We wondered what happened to that confident part of ourselves – that person who played and laughed and was carefree and completely at ease. We wonder if it’s even possible to live this way again. We feel so worn down and burdened by all that has occurred in our lives. The weight of it all has taken its toll on us, and we’re so tired of living this way. We want to feel alive again, but we aren’t quite sure how to go about it.

If this sounds like you, you are definitely not alone. I am right there with you. I am in the process of reclaiming my own self confidence, and while it does take effort and awareness, it is possible to get it back. It is possible to uncover our beautiful souls and live the lives that we were born to live. I know that this is true because my life has changed dramatically for the better since I made a choice to start living again. My self confidence is growing by leaps and bounds every day!

If you’re ready to reclaim your own self confidence, you are in good hands! Two of my friends, Barrie Davenport from Live Bold and Bloom and Erin Falconer from Pick the Brain have created an e-course designed to help you get that inner spark back. I’m so excited to share it here with you! Please read on to learn more about this amazing course and also read my interview with Barrie!

  • How would you like to wake up each day feeling sure of yourself and happy with who you are?
  • How would it feel not to worry what other people think of you or to feel obligated to make others happy?
  • How would it feel to comfortably walk in a room and start a conversation with ease?
  • How would it feel to be the initiator, to make great plans, to really go for it in life?
  • How would it feel to be simply self-confident?

If you struggle with issues related to self-confidence, or if you’d just like to improve your level of self-confidence, this course is for you! During the 4 weeks, you will focus on one key area of your life where you lack self-confidence, as you learn specific techniques for rebuilding your confidence.

The Simple Self-Confidence course includes:

  •  Live webinars with Erin and Barrie as well as weekly guest experts in psychology and personal development.
  • Articles, videos, and podcasts to support you during your self-confidence work.
  • An interactive Forum where you can share with other participants.
  • A Simple Self-Confidence Workbook, plus over $300 worth of bonus materials.
  • You will come away from the course with specific techniques for improving self-confidence in all areas of your life, for the rest of your life.

I sat down with Barrie to go even deeper into why this course is so important right now for so many of us. Her answers are below:

Why do you think so many of us are lacking in self confidence? 

There are so many different reasons, but many issues with self-confidence are tied to early childhood. If we were harshly criticized, neglected, negatively compared to others, or abused in some way (emotionally or physically), one’s self-confidence and self-esteem can be profoundly impacted. When you begin your early years believing you aren’t good enough in some way, you have many years to reinforce a habit of negative beliefs and feelings about yourself.

Also low self-confidence can be tied to appearance. We receive so many messages from society about acceptable standards of physical beauty. These standards are unrealistic for the vast majority of people, but we are bombarded with images telling us otherwise.

There are situational reasons for low self-confidence that can impact a specific area of your life — like losing a job, failing at a relationship, performing poorly in school, etc.

And some people have personality types that can make one vulnerable to low self-confidence.

In general, we all want to be loved and accepted, and low self-confidence is tied to the fear that our perceived flaws will make us less lovable and not worthy.

Can you talk about a time in your life where you were lacking in self confidence and what you did to build it up again?

The most recent time was a few years ago when my oldest child left home, and I was faced with what to do with my career. I now had more time to pursue my career in public relations, after working sporadically while my children were young. But I could not get excited about PR anymore. I had a huge internal resistance to gearing up my career again in that field.

However, I felt I had no other real options and that I was too old to start over. I was intimidated by technology and felt I was woefully behind in my skills in this area. I really felt stuck and inadequate. But something inside kept pushing me to investigate my options. I did a lot of research and self-work, and I kept having counseling and coaching appear as good career options for me. I finally took a leap of faith and enrolled in school to get certified as a coach. It was a perfect fit for me, and my passion for the work boosted my self-confidence enormously. When you find something you love, something that comes naturally to you, self-confidence follows organically!

Please share with us a little bit about your backgrounds with helping others empower themselves to be confident and secure and live their best lives.

As I mentioned, I am a personal and career coach and work with clients regularly on these issues. Part of my training as a coach included learning how to help people draw out their own inner wisdom so that they have the self-awareness that leads to self-confidence. I worked in public relations for over 25 years helping clients present themselves in the best possible light, which often included training them through self-confidence issues. I also help people with many topics related to self-confidence on my personal development blog Live Bold and Bloom. My partner for the course, Erin Falconer, is the editor-in-chief for one of the biggest personal development blogs on the internet, Pick the Brain. She is the daughter of a psychiatrist and author, so she comes by her awareness of self-improvement naturally!

Would you like to give us one nugget of wisdom that you offer from the course – a small taste of the type of goodies it’s packed with?

Self-confidence can be learned with awareness and practice. You can begin by pinpointing the area or areas where you lack self-confidence, ask yourself why you feel weak in this area, and begin to unwind yourself from the limiting beliefs that you reinforcing daily in your brain. Negative thinking becomes a habit, and once you begin a new thinking habit, you can kickstart self-confidence. In the course, we teach you how to do this work of dissecting your beliefs and retraining your brain. You start small, with one area of weakness at a time.

What is the biggest takeaway that you hope someone will keep with them after completing your e-course?

You don’t have to suffer with low self-confidence. There are specific skills you can learn and practice to change the way you act and the way you feel about yourself. Perhaps you had legitimate reasons for feeling low self-confidence at one time, but that doesn’t have to define you forever. Change is always possible, and participants will walk away with the skills to make that change.

Is there anything else that you would like to share?

We offered a free webinar last night on the Mind/Body Connection and Self-Confidence. We’ve put a recording of the webinar at the bottom of the home page for the course.

Enrollment opens today, and if you sign up for the course before Wednesday, 2/29, you will receive 50% off! Click here to learn more about the course and to sign up!

Let’s all make ourselves a priority. Let’s all make a choice to become self confident again. Let’s all remember that we are worthy of that and so much more. Let’s take that first step to reclaiming our true spirit!

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